"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Why don't really friendly, attractive, and smart girls
- Thread starter JPlaya
- Start date
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Iceberg
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Fixed your postJPlaya said:
Doctrine Dark
Don Juan
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Mike32ct
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Any decent looking female, even if she is SINGLE, is not necessarily celibate. She probably has some "secret lover" or ex or f*ck buddy stored in her phone. They exchanges text messages, and he probably comes over her place every so often. Girls hide their secret hookups from other guys. They want YOU to THINK they are all celibate and innocent. When asked about her "single status", she will say something likes "...she is just not that interested in having a boyfriend after breaking up with Steve six years ago." PLEASE DON'T be fooled by this dude.JPlaya said:
The funny thing is, the more friendly she is, the more likely she is to be taken. She might not be OFFICIALLY taken, i.e. has a boyfriend that is public knowledge, but if she's her happy cheerful self, she's getting laid somewhere somehow. It's all done under the radar.
I'm exaggerating slightly to make a point, but this is largely true.
I'll give you a real life example. I know this good looking, friendly, intelligent 21 y/o girl. She "broke up" with her boyfriend about a year ago. She is going to school full time. But she still goes over her ex's house once or twice a week "to study there because it's close to school." If anybody asked her, she doesn't have a boyfriend. She's not interested in dating until school is over.
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Why don't ugly fat people date or hook up with anyone?
The question I asked is wrong for the same reason as yours. You make several incorrect assumptions.
1. You assume that if hot girls were hooking up with people, that you'd be around to witness it. Let me ask you, do you tend to hook up in public, or to talk with many people about your hookups? Only desperate people seeking validation brag to anyone and everyone about their sexual exploits, and hot women generally don't seek that kind of validation.
2. You assume that you know a reasonable cross-section of the hot female population to make this observation. Let me ask you, do you have many or even a few hot female friends? If you do, then you should probably ask them about this.
3. You assume that just because hot women don't date or hook up with just any guy that they don't hook up or date at all. They have standards, but, as with most people, their standards can be met and are probably met far more often than you'd like to believe. It's a big world full of a lot of people and 75% of women by the age of 19 are no longer virgins.
They date, they hook up, and in fact they may have a lot more sex than you, but you shouldn't expect them to run and tell you about it. Real life is not a pornographic film with peep holes, orgies, and exhibitionists around every corner.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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They do, with me. Seriously, I'm with a girl right now that's just as you described. They're out there, you've just got to take the time to find them. Too me about 4 years to find one I liked and met my standards (so far).JPlaya said:
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JdelaSilviera
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Also they don´t need to have a fvck buddy, for many people sex is not an obsession.
Of course there´re some that are single but fvck other guys, ons etc.. But I know from experience what you are saying.
luckster
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Because you think you do. Take action.JPlaya said:
I've seen you start a lot of threads lately and read most of them. From what you say, you sound like you're working on yourself physically, though your "approach journal" is as empty as it could be. You're not going to "stop sucking" until you take action. These threads can't help you anymore.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Agreed. There are no 100 percent rules in the game. There probably are some good looking girls that are celibate at times and they don't care/mind. I just wanted the OP to not assume they're celibate. They're usually hooking up somehow, but not always.JdelaSilviera said:
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Also, smart chicks can see through KINO and your PUA in 50 milliseconds. Trying to Peacock with a smart girl is a good way to humiliate yourself when she sees through it.
Myrrdin
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Dude, what? KINO is THE ultimate weapon in MAN's arsenal. The power of touch is what sets you apart from her FRIENDS!leeraconteur said:
Peacocking can also be done with style. If you want to peacock and don't want to do it like Mystery then hit the gym. A bulked and ripped body is THE most effective way to peacock.
Keep reading before you give advice
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.