"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I went to a family gathering last night. Where there was lots of females. For some.reason i only said hello and goodbye to the males. I never aknowledged a female there. Its like i didnt even want to notice them unless there was a romantic prospect there etc: whats the underlying cause of this?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I went to a family gathering last night. Where there was lots of females. For some.reason i only said hello and goodbye to the males. I never aknowledged a female there. Its like i didnt even want to notice them unless there was a romantic prospect there etc: whats the underlying cause of this?
Alpha. Your not wasting time on females who arent giving choosing signals.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Understood.

Back to your question...

I agree with Mr. Goodstuff, but I will add one other possible angle...

Sometimes, in a twisted sort of way, it is a lot of fun to ignore women and only talk to guys. Can we call it "reverse-attention-whoring?" Or maybe "ignoring-whoring*" lol?

Additionally, with guys, you can (usually) let your guard down and just be yourself. Typically, talking to women is WORK, and talking to guys is easy/chill. Not sure how else to say it.

*Extroverts sometimes attention-*****. Us introverts sometimes ignore-***** lol.
 
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@Mike32ct so not aknowleding a female in a room by saying hello and goodbye is alpha? I was talking to them between that. But never said hello or goodbye lol. How is this alpha exactly?
 

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I went to a family gathering last night. Where there was lots of females. For some.reason i only said hello and goodbye to the males. I never aknowledged a female there. Its like i didnt even want to notice them unless there was a romantic prospect there etc: whats the underlying cause of this?
You're growing up, that's what Alpha males do
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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@Mike32ct so not aknowleding a female in a room by saying hello and goodbye is alpha? I was talking to them between that. But never said hello or goodbye lol. How is this alpha exactly?
There are two schools of thought in social situations.

1. Some guys like to "work the room" and basically introduce themselves and talk to everybody, male, female, etc. Acknowledge and talk to as many people as you reasonably can.

2. Be efficient and targeted. Only talk to who you want to talk to. Maybe a female giving you choosing signals or guys that you know are cool.

Either method can be alpha if it fits your personality.
 

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@Focal core but how is this? One girl even got up from her seat when i was leaving got right in my face and said goodbye then asked if she could give me a hug lol
You see Alpha males trait is always desired by women, they're most sought after males in females world, they can sense the trait even unconsciously.
 

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Its like i didnt even want to notice them unless there was a romantic prospect there etc: whats the underlying cause of this?
You are angry they are not giving you attention, love and respect; similar to a movie star getting paid millions to have sex in screen with the new actress.

So instead of chatting them up, making them relaxed, and getting their number, your attitude is “f-ck these b-tches. If they don’t give me love, I’m going to overcompensate and ignore them all.” There is a part of you that wants to punch them too because you are so angry.

Just go the gym, it’s the answer to everything.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You are angry they are not giving you attention, love and respect; similar to a movie star getting paid millions to have sex in screen with the new actress.

So instead of chatting them up, making them relaxed, and getting their number, your attitude is “f-ck these b-tches. If they don’t give me love, I’m going to overcompensate and ignore them all.” There is a part of you that wants to punch them too because you are so angry.

Just go the gym, it’s the answer to everything.
Huh? Im not angry i was having a great time lol
 

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The only thing i didnt like was i gave her the one armed hug and she patted my back lol
Hahahaha, patted back huh, just smile and be friendly. You just didn't know yet how much attention the real Alpha males get everyday.. They almost have to run or avoid from girls each day.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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