"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I went to a family gathering last night. Where there was lots of females. For some.reason i only said hello and goodbye to the males. I never aknowledged a female there. Its like i didnt even want to notice them unless there was a romantic prospect there etc: whats the underlying cause of this?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I went to a family gathering last night. Where there was lots of females. For some.reason i only said hello and goodbye to the males. I never aknowledged a female there. Its like i didnt even want to notice them unless there was a romantic prospect there etc: whats the underlying cause of this?
Alpha. Your not wasting time on females who arent giving choosing signals.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Understood.

Back to your question...

I agree with Mr. Goodstuff, but I will add one other possible angle...

Sometimes, in a twisted sort of way, it is a lot of fun to ignore women and only talk to guys. Can we call it "reverse-attention-whoring?" Or maybe "ignoring-whoring*" lol?

Additionally, with guys, you can (usually) let your guard down and just be yourself. Typically, talking to women is WORK, and talking to guys is easy/chill. Not sure how else to say it.

*Extroverts sometimes attention-*****. Us introverts sometimes ignore-***** lol.
 
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@Mike32ct so not aknowleding a female in a room by saying hello and goodbye is alpha? I was talking to them between that. But never said hello or goodbye lol. How is this alpha exactly?
 

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I went to a family gathering last night. Where there was lots of females. For some.reason i only said hello and goodbye to the males. I never aknowledged a female there. Its like i didnt even want to notice them unless there was a romantic prospect there etc: whats the underlying cause of this?
You're growing up, that's what Alpha males do
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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@Mike32ct so not aknowleding a female in a room by saying hello and goodbye is alpha? I was talking to them between that. But never said hello or goodbye lol. How is this alpha exactly?
There are two schools of thought in social situations.

1. Some guys like to "work the room" and basically introduce themselves and talk to everybody, male, female, etc. Acknowledge and talk to as many people as you reasonably can.

2. Be efficient and targeted. Only talk to who you want to talk to. Maybe a female giving you choosing signals or guys that you know are cool.

Either method can be alpha if it fits your personality.
 

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@Focal core but how is this? One girl even got up from her seat when i was leaving got right in my face and said goodbye then asked if she could give me a hug lol
You see Alpha males trait is always desired by women, they're most sought after males in females world, they can sense the trait even unconsciously.
 

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Its like i didnt even want to notice them unless there was a romantic prospect there etc: whats the underlying cause of this?
You are angry they are not giving you attention, love and respect; similar to a movie star getting paid millions to have sex in screen with the new actress.

So instead of chatting them up, making them relaxed, and getting their number, your attitude is “f-ck these b-tches. If they don’t give me love, I’m going to overcompensate and ignore them all.” There is a part of you that wants to punch them too because you are so angry.

Just go the gym, it’s the answer to everything.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You are angry they are not giving you attention, love and respect; similar to a movie star getting paid millions to have sex in screen with the new actress.

So instead of chatting them up, making them relaxed, and getting their number, your attitude is “f-ck these b-tches. If they don’t give me love, I’m going to overcompensate and ignore them all.” There is a part of you that wants to punch them too because you are so angry.

Just go the gym, it’s the answer to everything.
Huh? Im not angry i was having a great time lol
 

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The only thing i didnt like was i gave her the one armed hug and she patted my back lol
Hahahaha, patted back huh, just smile and be friendly. You just didn't know yet how much attention the real Alpha males get everyday.. They almost have to run or avoid from girls each day.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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