"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Why dont i aknowledge females?

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I went to a family gathering last night. Where there was lots of females. For some.reason i only said hello and goodbye to the males. I never aknowledged a female there. Its like i didnt even want to notice them unless there was a romantic prospect there etc: whats the underlying cause of this?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I went to a family gathering last night. Where there was lots of females. For some.reason i only said hello and goodbye to the males. I never aknowledged a female there. Its like i didnt even want to notice them unless there was a romantic prospect there etc: whats the underlying cause of this?
Alpha. Your not wasting time on females who arent giving choosing signals.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Understood.

Back to your question...

I agree with Mr. Goodstuff, but I will add one other possible angle...

Sometimes, in a twisted sort of way, it is a lot of fun to ignore women and only talk to guys. Can we call it "reverse-attention-whoring?" Or maybe "ignoring-whoring*" lol?

Additionally, with guys, you can (usually) let your guard down and just be yourself. Typically, talking to women is WORK, and talking to guys is easy/chill. Not sure how else to say it.

*Extroverts sometimes attention-*****. Us introverts sometimes ignore-***** lol.
 
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@Mike32ct so not aknowleding a female in a room by saying hello and goodbye is alpha? I was talking to them between that. But never said hello or goodbye lol. How is this alpha exactly?
 

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I went to a family gathering last night. Where there was lots of females. For some.reason i only said hello and goodbye to the males. I never aknowledged a female there. Its like i didnt even want to notice them unless there was a romantic prospect there etc: whats the underlying cause of this?
You're growing up, that's what Alpha males do
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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@Mike32ct so not aknowleding a female in a room by saying hello and goodbye is alpha? I was talking to them between that. But never said hello or goodbye lol. How is this alpha exactly?
There are two schools of thought in social situations.

1. Some guys like to "work the room" and basically introduce themselves and talk to everybody, male, female, etc. Acknowledge and talk to as many people as you reasonably can.

2. Be efficient and targeted. Only talk to who you want to talk to. Maybe a female giving you choosing signals or guys that you know are cool.

Either method can be alpha if it fits your personality.
 

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@Focal core but how is this? One girl even got up from her seat when i was leaving got right in my face and said goodbye then asked if she could give me a hug lol
You see Alpha males trait is always desired by women, they're most sought after males in females world, they can sense the trait even unconsciously.
 

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Its like i didnt even want to notice them unless there was a romantic prospect there etc: whats the underlying cause of this?
You are angry they are not giving you attention, love and respect; similar to a movie star getting paid millions to have sex in screen with the new actress.

So instead of chatting them up, making them relaxed, and getting their number, your attitude is “f-ck these b-tches. If they don’t give me love, I’m going to overcompensate and ignore them all.” There is a part of you that wants to punch them too because you are so angry.

Just go the gym, it’s the answer to everything.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You are angry they are not giving you attention, love and respect; similar to a movie star getting paid millions to have sex in screen with the new actress.

So instead of chatting them up, making them relaxed, and getting their number, your attitude is “f-ck these b-tches. If they don’t give me love, I’m going to overcompensate and ignore them all.” There is a part of you that wants to punch them too because you are so angry.

Just go the gym, it’s the answer to everything.
Huh? Im not angry i was having a great time lol
 

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The only thing i didnt like was i gave her the one armed hug and she patted my back lol
Hahahaha, patted back huh, just smile and be friendly. You just didn't know yet how much attention the real Alpha males get everyday.. They almost have to run or avoid from girls each day.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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