"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Why does this keep happening to me?

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Blackhole105

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I was at my gf's house today (she still lives with her mom), and her mom was out so we were on my gf's bed making out pretty hard.

I made a move to pull off her shirt and initiate sex, but she tells me "we can't" and from that point I totally shut down. I basically stopped making out with her and became a zombie; I told her I had to leave and get ready for work (even though I had plenty of time to stay)

The thing is I know I'm acting like a douchebag when I do this because most of the times she's right; her mom could come home any minute and we'd be fvcked. And to make things worse her mom did come home about 5 minutes after she told me we cant. And even though I know what I'm doing is hurtful to her (and makes me feel like an *******) I still cant snap out of this unresponsive mood it puts me in.

This has happened several times now and it always strains my relationships. I want to know why this is happening and what I can do to stop it or at least hide it from her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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MotownMack

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Don't be so easily discouraged.

If you think the venue is cramping your style and keeping things from going forward, try this where you know you guys won't get interrupted like when her Mom is gone. You can't really blame her if she's got a nosey or over protective Mom, for not wanting to go there.

What you're doing is not "hurtful" to her- she probably wants to do it on most levles, she's just uncomfortable with the surroundings. Stop turning a simple matter of semantics into a guilt trip.
 
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DonGorgon

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Females do what they want when they want ... "CANT" only comes up when they dont want to..

So your job is to make hear really want to soo bad that she does...
 
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Mavrick

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Just know that if you keep acting like that you're relationship will soon be over. If you keep that in mind, you won't do it.

Never convey desparation. Not even for sex. When she says no, start off light and try to escalate. Do not try to persuade her or force her. She won't be receptive.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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