One of the best looking, and all around highest value girls I had ever been with texts me periodically. Things ended about 2 years ago when I found out she had a bf living in Australia, and was basically just using me until he came back. I cut off all contact, haven't replied in about 6 months. She typically sends a text every 3-4 months, but lately it's becoming more frequent. I'd be lying if I said I didn't still feel some type of way for her, but I know for a fact she's still with her bf. Any thoughts?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Why does she still text me?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
dustmuffin
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She wants attention and validation. She may be bored and wants to be entertained by you for a bit. If you stopped seeing her because she has a bf then I would just ignore her texts.
Women like to collect men as back-up plans or as orbiters.
If you want to sleep with her again then make a move. If she shuts you down, then you know the truth. If she lets you have sex with her, then you get to have sex with her.
Doing nothing and wondering what she is really after is kind of silly. You can find out anytime you want.
There is this 9 at my job who has a boyfriend but always flirts with me. I've also heard from others that she finds me very attractive. I choose not to do anything about it because I don't sh*t where I eat. But if I were to leave the company or she were to leave the company I would make a move on her so fast your head would spin. There is a possibility its all attention seeking and there is a possibility she would really sleep with me. I know how to find out, I just choose not to.
If you want to sleep with her again then make a move. If she shuts you down, then you know the truth. If she lets you have sex with her, then you get to have sex with her.
Doing nothing and wondering what she is really after is kind of silly. You can find out anytime you want.
There is this 9 at my job who has a boyfriend but always flirts with me. I've also heard from others that she finds me very attractive. I choose not to do anything about it because I don't sh*t where I eat. But if I were to leave the company or she were to leave the company I would make a move on her so fast your head would spin. There is a possibility its all attention seeking and there is a possibility she would really sleep with me. I know how to find out, I just choose not to.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
EyeBRollin
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Sure.
Option 1: Delete and block her.
Option 2: Invite her to your place to make dinner. If she doesn't agree, ghost and repeat until she submits.
Option 1: Delete and block her.
Option 2: Invite her to your place to make dinner. If she doesn't agree, ghost and repeat until she submits.
She is boared and wants you to entertain her. She knows she hot to you when she used you the last time. She is testing her power to see if she still has any over you
NSX-R
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You can be fwb.
She's bored of her boyfriend and she's lokking for aome attention . Currently you are one of those who could give her some validation and she feels confort with you.
Use this for your benefit. If you want to make her your gf , that's impossible. Invite her in your place and do your thing otherwise you are simply a friend.
She's bored of her boyfriend and she's lokking for aome attention . Currently you are one of those who could give her some validation and she feels confort with you.
Use this for your benefit. If you want to make her your gf , that's impossible. Invite her in your place and do your thing otherwise you are simply a friend.