One of the best looking, and all around highest value girls I had ever been with texts me periodically. Things ended about 2 years ago when I found out she had a bf living in Australia, and was basically just using me until he came back. I cut off all contact, haven't replied in about 6 months. She typically sends a text every 3-4 months, but lately it's becoming more frequent. I'd be lying if I said I didn't still feel some type of way for her, but I know for a fact she's still with her bf. Any thoughts?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Why does she still text me?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
dustmuffin
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She wants attention and validation. She may be bored and wants to be entertained by you for a bit. If you stopped seeing her because she has a bf then I would just ignore her texts.
Women like to collect men as back-up plans or as orbiters.
If you want to sleep with her again then make a move. If she shuts you down, then you know the truth. If she lets you have sex with her, then you get to have sex with her.
Doing nothing and wondering what she is really after is kind of silly. You can find out anytime you want.
There is this 9 at my job who has a boyfriend but always flirts with me. I've also heard from others that she finds me very attractive. I choose not to do anything about it because I don't sh*t where I eat. But if I were to leave the company or she were to leave the company I would make a move on her so fast your head would spin. There is a possibility its all attention seeking and there is a possibility she would really sleep with me. I know how to find out, I just choose not to.
If you want to sleep with her again then make a move. If she shuts you down, then you know the truth. If she lets you have sex with her, then you get to have sex with her.
Doing nothing and wondering what she is really after is kind of silly. You can find out anytime you want.
There is this 9 at my job who has a boyfriend but always flirts with me. I've also heard from others that she finds me very attractive. I choose not to do anything about it because I don't sh*t where I eat. But if I were to leave the company or she were to leave the company I would make a move on her so fast your head would spin. There is a possibility its all attention seeking and there is a possibility she would really sleep with me. I know how to find out, I just choose not to.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
EyeBRollin
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Sure.
Option 1: Delete and block her.
Option 2: Invite her to your place to make dinner. If she doesn't agree, ghost and repeat until she submits.
Option 1: Delete and block her.
Option 2: Invite her to your place to make dinner. If she doesn't agree, ghost and repeat until she submits.
She is boared and wants you to entertain her. She knows she hot to you when she used you the last time. She is testing her power to see if she still has any over you
NSX-R
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You can be fwb.
She's bored of her boyfriend and she's lokking for aome attention . Currently you are one of those who could give her some validation and she feels confort with you.
Use this for your benefit. If you want to make her your gf , that's impossible. Invite her in your place and do your thing otherwise you are simply a friend.
She's bored of her boyfriend and she's lokking for aome attention . Currently you are one of those who could give her some validation and she feels confort with you.
Use this for your benefit. If you want to make her your gf , that's impossible. Invite her in your place and do your thing otherwise you are simply a friend.