One of the best looking, and all around highest value girls I had ever been with texts me periodically. Things ended about 2 years ago when I found out she had a bf living in Australia, and was basically just using me until he came back. I cut off all contact, haven't replied in about 6 months. She typically sends a text every 3-4 months, but lately it's becoming more frequent. I'd be lying if I said I didn't still feel some type of way for her, but I know for a fact she's still with her bf. Any thoughts?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Why does she still text me?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
dustmuffin
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She wants attention and validation. She may be bored and wants to be entertained by you for a bit. If you stopped seeing her because she has a bf then I would just ignore her texts.
Women like to collect men as back-up plans or as orbiters.
If you want to sleep with her again then make a move. If she shuts you down, then you know the truth. If she lets you have sex with her, then you get to have sex with her.
Doing nothing and wondering what she is really after is kind of silly. You can find out anytime you want.
There is this 9 at my job who has a boyfriend but always flirts with me. I've also heard from others that she finds me very attractive. I choose not to do anything about it because I don't sh*t where I eat. But if I were to leave the company or she were to leave the company I would make a move on her so fast your head would spin. There is a possibility its all attention seeking and there is a possibility she would really sleep with me. I know how to find out, I just choose not to.
If you want to sleep with her again then make a move. If she shuts you down, then you know the truth. If she lets you have sex with her, then you get to have sex with her.
Doing nothing and wondering what she is really after is kind of silly. You can find out anytime you want.
There is this 9 at my job who has a boyfriend but always flirts with me. I've also heard from others that she finds me very attractive. I choose not to do anything about it because I don't sh*t where I eat. But if I were to leave the company or she were to leave the company I would make a move on her so fast your head would spin. There is a possibility its all attention seeking and there is a possibility she would really sleep with me. I know how to find out, I just choose not to.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
EyeBRollin
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Sure.
Option 1: Delete and block her.
Option 2: Invite her to your place to make dinner. If she doesn't agree, ghost and repeat until she submits.
Option 1: Delete and block her.
Option 2: Invite her to your place to make dinner. If she doesn't agree, ghost and repeat until she submits.
She is boared and wants you to entertain her. She knows she hot to you when she used you the last time. She is testing her power to see if she still has any over you
NSX-R
Master Don Juan
You can be fwb.
She's bored of her boyfriend and she's lokking for aome attention . Currently you are one of those who could give her some validation and she feels confort with you.
Use this for your benefit. If you want to make her your gf , that's impossible. Invite her in your place and do your thing otherwise you are simply a friend.
She's bored of her boyfriend and she's lokking for aome attention . Currently you are one of those who could give her some validation and she feels confort with you.
Use this for your benefit. If you want to make her your gf , that's impossible. Invite her in your place and do your thing otherwise you are simply a friend.