One of the best looking, and all around highest value girls I had ever been with texts me periodically. Things ended about 2 years ago when I found out she had a bf living in Australia, and was basically just using me until he came back. I cut off all contact, haven't replied in about 6 months. She typically sends a text every 3-4 months, but lately it's becoming more frequent. I'd be lying if I said I didn't still feel some type of way for her, but I know for a fact she's still with her bf. Any thoughts?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Why does she still text me?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
dustmuffin
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She wants attention and validation. She may be bored and wants to be entertained by you for a bit. If you stopped seeing her because she has a bf then I would just ignore her texts.
Women like to collect men as back-up plans or as orbiters.
If you want to sleep with her again then make a move. If she shuts you down, then you know the truth. If she lets you have sex with her, then you get to have sex with her.
Doing nothing and wondering what she is really after is kind of silly. You can find out anytime you want.
There is this 9 at my job who has a boyfriend but always flirts with me. I've also heard from others that she finds me very attractive. I choose not to do anything about it because I don't sh*t where I eat. But if I were to leave the company or she were to leave the company I would make a move on her so fast your head would spin. There is a possibility its all attention seeking and there is a possibility she would really sleep with me. I know how to find out, I just choose not to.
If you want to sleep with her again then make a move. If she shuts you down, then you know the truth. If she lets you have sex with her, then you get to have sex with her.
Doing nothing and wondering what she is really after is kind of silly. You can find out anytime you want.
There is this 9 at my job who has a boyfriend but always flirts with me. I've also heard from others that she finds me very attractive. I choose not to do anything about it because I don't sh*t where I eat. But if I were to leave the company or she were to leave the company I would make a move on her so fast your head would spin. There is a possibility its all attention seeking and there is a possibility she would really sleep with me. I know how to find out, I just choose not to.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
EyeBRollin
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Sure.
Option 1: Delete and block her.
Option 2: Invite her to your place to make dinner. If she doesn't agree, ghost and repeat until she submits.
Option 1: Delete and block her.
Option 2: Invite her to your place to make dinner. If she doesn't agree, ghost and repeat until she submits.
She is boared and wants you to entertain her. She knows she hot to you when she used you the last time. She is testing her power to see if she still has any over you
NSX-R
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You can be fwb.
She's bored of her boyfriend and she's lokking for aome attention . Currently you are one of those who could give her some validation and she feels confort with you.
Use this for your benefit. If you want to make her your gf , that's impossible. Invite her in your place and do your thing otherwise you are simply a friend.
She's bored of her boyfriend and she's lokking for aome attention . Currently you are one of those who could give her some validation and she feels confort with you.
Use this for your benefit. If you want to make her your gf , that's impossible. Invite her in your place and do your thing otherwise you are simply a friend.