DonutMan said:
Yea...so Im pretty sure she thinks she can have me anytime she wants. So I'm thinking about not contacting, and taking all her **** she left at my house and putting it in a box and dropping it off with her doorman. Would this seem to bitter? I do want her back, but I'm not gonna put up with games anymore. So I think dropping her stuff off without saying anything would send a message.
Do NOT do that.
Come on. She'll know that she clearly provoked a reaction out of you.
You either throw that **** away or don't touch it... but DONT do that.
By taking the time to pack that up, take it over there and drop it off... you are putting too much effort into it already.
Just lay low for a week or two and gauge what happens.
BTW, here's what happened:
Had a discussion about a relationship she freaked. Started flaking for about two weeks. Finally got fed up told her that if she didn't want to see me just say no..and told her it was okay to say no, I would be fine with it.
Why did you bring it up? Obviously she freaked out because YOU were cornering her into a relationship... SHE is the one that is supposed to bring up the relationship talks.
What she is doing right now is gauging whether you're clingy/needy or whether you are the guy she first met.
And when women text "What are you doing"... it's out of boredom. Don't respond.
And why would you tell a woman that "If you don't want to see me, just say so, I'll be fine with it"?
You gave her the whole frame of the relationship right there by saying that. You gave away the lead. You definitely changed at some point from the guy she started going out with to the guy you are now.
Reevaluate what you did wrong and what you did right and compare.
DonutMan said:
I understand that I wasn't really a dj in this thing. But we kind of made a deal that we weren't gonna play games with each other. The week before the relationship talk she had been coming over to my house to spend the night almost every night.
Oh good lord, I didn't even see this until the second time I read this thread.
Are you sure you two aren't just FB's? I mean, I'd be more willing to believe it if you guys hadn't slept together almost every night!
Don't you have other things and women to do?
And if she was coming over almost every night... why are YOU asking HER about a relationship?? And the only people that make deals "not to play games" are women who want to play games but don't want you to, or FB's.
I think you just really need to reevaluate YOURSELF, first and foremost and then reevaluate what this "relationship" really is.