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Why Does Moving in Together DESTROY Relationships

SargeMaximus

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Refer to the updated post
Like I said, I’m not saying people should get married. I’m speaking of an effective way to see if the girl is “all that” not an effective way to date. I also said IF you were seeking a long term thing.

All things considered, if one of my fwbs wanted me to move in I’d do it but I’d also keep seeing other girls. Having another pad to live in is a good thing.
 

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To be fair, my ex gf and I never fought and always had the same likes and dislikes. Moving in introduced some magical unspoken element and things went to pieces.

I think moving in is an important step to take IF you are looking for a long term partner, but it should be treated as another TEST to see if she will fit into your life. Not “well we are moved in so that is the end”
are you really sure though? How long were y’all together? The fact that y’all had no disagreements is really questionable.
 

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Mystery has nothing to do with it. This is another red pill myth.

Two stable people who are going on the same direction, have the same values, the same views on money, religion, kids, the in-laws....
do not care about "mystery".

Men simply do not screen enough beyond the physical. That's why your "live in girlfriend" situation will fall to pieces.

Why would you want to move in with a woman anyway if it's not for marriage. I'll tell you why...men will think "great, puzzy on tap whenever I want it". Does not consider compatibility. Does not consider common values. Does not consider his own or the woman's character.

Fools rush in. Simple as that.
I agree. Men are too visual.
 

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She sees that your a lazy piece of sht that just smokes weed and sits on his phone the whole day instead of what she imagined your day to day life to be. If your day to day life is being outside the house most of the time, then dont see living together as a problem cuz she again has to imagine what your out doing outside the house.
Where are you at night?

Right.

Competition anxiety....."poof"
 

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Woop de do. What's your point?
TBH it was really easy to call BS on your post. To tell me that you never fought with your gf means that you never left the honey moon phase or y’all were literal teenagers. TBH, romanticizing Disney relationships are a feminine trait
 

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TBH it was really easy to call BS on your post. To tell me that you never fought with your gf means that you never left the honey moon phase or y’all were literal teenagers. TBH, romanticizing Disney relationships are a feminine trait
I’m not romanticizing anything, just stating facts of my previous relationship and what I learned. I’ll never be married nor will I go monogamous ever again. If I do go monogamous I’ll still cheat
 

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No, it is not extreme. Swearing off relationships completely due to a bad experience is what women do. It is not a rational approach.
I’m not swearing off relationships because of a bad experience. I learned something about myself and how I’m not monogamous. Therefore I’ll never do monogamous or marriage. I’m all for poly relationships
 

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I’m not swearing off relationships because of a bad experience. I learned something about myself and how I’m not monogamous. Therefore I’ll never do monogamous or marriage. I’m all for poly relationships
Then I stand corrected.

Poly is a tough sell to the court systems of the West. Good luck, brother.
 

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The why is not important. The data is what it is. Living together before marriage = higher likelihood of divorce.
Yea, it is. Otherwise, it's based off of female logic. I'd love to know how and where you get your ideas when there's no scientific basis backing it up.
 

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Yea, it is. Otherwise, it's based off of female logic. I'd love to know how and where you get your ideas when there's no scientific basis backing it up.
Cohabitation divorce statistics are what they are. “Female logic” has nothing to do with it. You are free to dislike the data, but it doesn’t change the numbers.
 
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