thedude4242
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earn respect, know what it is and simply dont tolerate or put up with bullsh!t. bullsh!t comes along dont bother with it anymore.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Why does it feel like I'm constantly being disrespected
- Thread starter ThunderMaverick
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Cry For Love
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let iqqi tie you up and punish you. It is obvious.
Atom Smasher
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Normally you'd be correct, TIC, but it looks to me like the OP doesn't have any boundaries.TIC said:
OP, you're stuck in Beta-Land. You sound like you have nice-guy-ism oozing out of your pores. In your quest to be "fair" and open-minded, you're turning yourself into a doormat.
It's NOT ok for any girl of mine to see other men, period. I establish that early on and it's not up for negotiation. There's no such thing as an innocent male/female "friendship". Sexuality is always there.
ThunderMaverick
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It's been taken care of. Thanks for the input. Apparently this issue is one that requires the experience of people who aren't on this forum. I doubt anyone but Bible Belt would understand. lol
You want respect? Then don't be telling her how you feel like a helpless person on Oprah. You law down the law like a man and set some rules in the relationship. All that should have been done first day. I wouldn't allow my GF hang around with her ex's or let other guys touch her.ThunderMaverick said:
Like another poster said, if you want respect you have to earn it.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Onlyliveonce
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And a new line of work...porn