thedude4242
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earn respect, know what it is and simply dont tolerate or put up with bullsh!t. bullsh!t comes along dont bother with it anymore.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Why does it feel like I'm constantly being disrespected
- Thread starter ThunderMaverick
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Cry For Love
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let iqqi tie you up and punish you. It is obvious.
Atom Smasher
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Normally you'd be correct, TIC, but it looks to me like the OP doesn't have any boundaries.TIC said:
OP, you're stuck in Beta-Land. You sound like you have nice-guy-ism oozing out of your pores. In your quest to be "fair" and open-minded, you're turning yourself into a doormat.
It's NOT ok for any girl of mine to see other men, period. I establish that early on and it's not up for negotiation. There's no such thing as an innocent male/female "friendship". Sexuality is always there.
ThunderMaverick
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It's been taken care of. Thanks for the input. Apparently this issue is one that requires the experience of people who aren't on this forum. I doubt anyone but Bible Belt would understand. lol
You want respect? Then don't be telling her how you feel like a helpless person on Oprah. You law down the law like a man and set some rules in the relationship. All that should have been done first day. I wouldn't allow my GF hang around with her ex's or let other guys touch her.ThunderMaverick said:
Like another poster said, if you want respect you have to earn it.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Onlyliveonce
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