"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Why does every girl Ilike have a stupid boyfriend?!

Mjfan12

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Im sorry for this rant.

but I have real high standards. And Im just not attracted to like 80% of the girls out there. And if im not attracted to a girl, I wont even waste my time and make an effort.

The girls i dont like are always available and I could get them easily, but I just dont want them.

The RARE girl that comes by that I really like always turns out to have a boyfriend.

There's this super gorgeous Cuban girl in my calc class. She has practically everything I look for in a girl. Shes beautiful, has a great body, and excellent personality, she's nice, and shes, real smart.

I start talking to her for a little bit and just BS a little.

Then I study with a group and shes there with some big ass chinese guy. I ask her if thats her BF and she said "not yet, but soon" I have no idea what that means but obviously shes infactuated with the other guy.

So thats it I guess. I need to keep looking for someone else, but this really pisses me off that all the girls that I like seem to have boyfriends.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The TallOne

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Here is the deal.

You keep searching, thats the only way you'll find a girl without a b/f.
 
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yeah, OR you could break them up. if the boyfriend is an idiot/afc just mess around with him and make him mess up the relationship.

if you cant do it, then she is lucky to be with that man.



there are no rules in love and war. there is no honor in the battlefield. you do whatever it takes to get the job done. just dont shoot yourself in the foot.
 

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mjman i have the same problem, all the girls i start talking to and really like mention their stupid boyfriends after couple conversations, and it's just frustrating... it's usually the hot ones that always has boyfriends... i wonder if there is anything we can do about it? lol
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Tomb

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The title of this thread is about "stupid" boyfriends, but you haven't given any reasons to believe their boyfriend are stupid. The chinese guy by default should be smart.
 

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ehh it happens, matter of luck. I'm the same way as you when it comes to being picky with girls. And i've had those streaks where every girl I talked to had a bf. Comes with the territory, very attractive girls have many guys chaseing after them so they usually have a bf.

Keep talking to the girls anyway and flirt and let them know your interested and if they are attracted to you they will let you know too. And whenever they break up with their bf, you move in for the kill. But you gotta do this with a lot of girls at once.
 

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lol Tomb gotta love the positive stereotypes.


This is self serving bias talking man. Just because a girl is with a dude that is not YOU doesn't make him stupid. The fact that you would take that attitude shows you have a lot of learning left to do.

I say stop worrying about what isn't and what will never be and start meeting more women. If you are meeting enough women the "taken" factor should not be a problem.
 

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Look for your local gay bar, you might have better luck there.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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[DoN.2.Da.JUaN]

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sorry didnt bother reading all of your post...

but "i have high standars im not attracted to 80% of women out there"

your either gay or fridget
 

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"What the hell is 'not, but soon'" is the question here. Man, why are YOU putting ideas you don't like in her head. I was kind of sympathetic, before I read this. He is NOT her boyfriend, just someone she's attracted to. Just stick to the C&F and other routines, BE attractive, and you'll suddenly notice the attractive girls around you will start to have "just friends" and "boyfriends they don't get along with".
 

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a) Of course if they're HB8 and over, the chances are they'll have a b/f - stands to reason they won't stay on the market long.

b) Maybe you like them because they're unavailable. That's human nature.
 

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Hmmmm have you ever wondered if they really have a boyfriend or they just tell you that because your not doing enough to build attraction with them so you come across as an afc, just a thought.
 

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a) Of course if they're HB8 and over, the chances are they'll have a b/f - stands to reason they won't stay on the market long.
That's the reason I was sympathetic at the beginning. The market is way too stagnant. :)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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It doesnt matter she's probably BSing you like all the other girls out there. Who said you couldnt go after a chick with a bf anyway? fvck him
 

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You might consider going for hot chick - 1. Go one step down from hot and stick to just good looking and there is better material there. Most of the hot ones are AWs or mental cases unfortunately.
 

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Seems like only one person read the original poster´s post.

Dude, the girl said the big guy is NOT her boyfriend.

SHE DOES NOT HAVE A BOYFRIEND!

And what the fvck are yoou doing asking her if he´s her boyfriend, its none of your buisines.


Ask her out!

SHE DOES NOT HAVE A BOYFRIEND!

To the other guys, who were chatting about women with or without boyfriends.. look for a post on the tips section by crowes22, on boyfriends. He changed my perception of the subject very recently. I¨d post a link, but the explorer I have is primitive, sorry about that.
 

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dude she is still single.....

until that women is IN LOVE...its game on.
 

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if thats the case, you can still get the h0 if she doesnt have a b/f yet ..... if the fat chinese boy beats u to the punch , fvck it! move on to the next girl ....
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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