Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Why does every girl Ilike have a stupid boyfriend?!

Mjfan12

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Im sorry for this rant.

but I have real high standards. And Im just not attracted to like 80% of the girls out there. And if im not attracted to a girl, I wont even waste my time and make an effort.

The girls i dont like are always available and I could get them easily, but I just dont want them.

The RARE girl that comes by that I really like always turns out to have a boyfriend.

There's this super gorgeous Cuban girl in my calc class. She has practically everything I look for in a girl. Shes beautiful, has a great body, and excellent personality, she's nice, and shes, real smart.

I start talking to her for a little bit and just BS a little.

Then I study with a group and shes there with some big ass chinese guy. I ask her if thats her BF and she said "not yet, but soon" I have no idea what that means but obviously shes infactuated with the other guy.

So thats it I guess. I need to keep looking for someone else, but this really pisses me off that all the girls that I like seem to have boyfriends.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The TallOne

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Here is the deal.

You keep searching, thats the only way you'll find a girl without a b/f.
 
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yeah, OR you could break them up. if the boyfriend is an idiot/afc just mess around with him and make him mess up the relationship.

if you cant do it, then she is lucky to be with that man.



there are no rules in love and war. there is no honor in the battlefield. you do whatever it takes to get the job done. just dont shoot yourself in the foot.
 

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mjman i have the same problem, all the girls i start talking to and really like mention their stupid boyfriends after couple conversations, and it's just frustrating... it's usually the hot ones that always has boyfriends... i wonder if there is anything we can do about it? lol
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Tomb

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The title of this thread is about "stupid" boyfriends, but you haven't given any reasons to believe their boyfriend are stupid. The chinese guy by default should be smart.
 

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ehh it happens, matter of luck. I'm the same way as you when it comes to being picky with girls. And i've had those streaks where every girl I talked to had a bf. Comes with the territory, very attractive girls have many guys chaseing after them so they usually have a bf.

Keep talking to the girls anyway and flirt and let them know your interested and if they are attracted to you they will let you know too. And whenever they break up with their bf, you move in for the kill. But you gotta do this with a lot of girls at once.
 

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lol Tomb gotta love the positive stereotypes.


This is self serving bias talking man. Just because a girl is with a dude that is not YOU doesn't make him stupid. The fact that you would take that attitude shows you have a lot of learning left to do.

I say stop worrying about what isn't and what will never be and start meeting more women. If you are meeting enough women the "taken" factor should not be a problem.
 

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Look for your local gay bar, you might have better luck there.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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sorry didnt bother reading all of your post...

but "i have high standars im not attracted to 80% of women out there"

your either gay or fridget
 

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"What the hell is 'not, but soon'" is the question here. Man, why are YOU putting ideas you don't like in her head. I was kind of sympathetic, before I read this. He is NOT her boyfriend, just someone she's attracted to. Just stick to the C&F and other routines, BE attractive, and you'll suddenly notice the attractive girls around you will start to have "just friends" and "boyfriends they don't get along with".
 

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a) Of course if they're HB8 and over, the chances are they'll have a b/f - stands to reason they won't stay on the market long.

b) Maybe you like them because they're unavailable. That's human nature.
 

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Hmmmm have you ever wondered if they really have a boyfriend or they just tell you that because your not doing enough to build attraction with them so you come across as an afc, just a thought.
 

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a) Of course if they're HB8 and over, the chances are they'll have a b/f - stands to reason they won't stay on the market long.
That's the reason I was sympathetic at the beginning. The market is way too stagnant. :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ScrewIt

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It doesnt matter she's probably BSing you like all the other girls out there. Who said you couldnt go after a chick with a bf anyway? fvck him
 

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You might consider going for hot chick - 1. Go one step down from hot and stick to just good looking and there is better material there. Most of the hot ones are AWs or mental cases unfortunately.
 

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Seems like only one person read the original poster´s post.

Dude, the girl said the big guy is NOT her boyfriend.

SHE DOES NOT HAVE A BOYFRIEND!

And what the fvck are yoou doing asking her if he´s her boyfriend, its none of your buisines.


Ask her out!

SHE DOES NOT HAVE A BOYFRIEND!

To the other guys, who were chatting about women with or without boyfriends.. look for a post on the tips section by crowes22, on boyfriends. He changed my perception of the subject very recently. I¨d post a link, but the explorer I have is primitive, sorry about that.
 

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dude she is still single.....

until that women is IN LOVE...its game on.
 

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if thats the case, you can still get the h0 if she doesnt have a b/f yet ..... if the fat chinese boy beats u to the punch , fvck it! move on to the next girl ....
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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