"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Why does a woman do this?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Girls like preselection. They want men who are wanted by other women.
So in their mind this is how it works in the other direction aswell. Hence, if someone hits on her, she is preselected and has a higher SMV, or at least she's trying to show a higher SMV to someone else. Could be you. Don't know enough details.
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If the guy is attractive, she’s showing off that hot guys want her yet still don’t necessarily meet her “standards.”
If the guy isn’t attractive, she’s projecting a “How dare he hit on me? I’m out of his league” vibe.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Contrasting myself from chodes is a big part of my game.
RangerMIke
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I need some context.
If she is someone you are dating... this happens when she feels like she is starting to lose control of the relationship, and she's letting you know she has other options. It's a power play.
If it's some chick you just met, and you are on a first date. She is communicating to you that she's not interested in a relationship because she is sensing a vib that you are.... she is telling you that she is playing the field and if anything happens, don't turn into a clueless stalker.
If it is neither, then you are being tested to see how you react.... she wants to see if you have jealousy tendencies... chicks hate that sh1t.
In all cases the only way to respond is the ignore it and change the subject.
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Because attention is like any other drug, highly addictive and satisfying.
Don't give yours away for free.
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jealousy is not they hate it, if is a guy they like they kinda like it, but most use this as a power play tool to control the guy
also note a woman who are interested in you will never mention another guy, she knows more guys she had less valuable she is, so unless she is a complete clueless retard she will never mention anotehr guy IF she is interested in you
this is a total misconception here
women mention other guys that are hitting her ( and just this ) to demonstrate preselection
she does this because she likes you and maybe also sees you a little bit out of reach ( like aloof or higher value then her as a few examples ) , not because she does not
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I never saw a woman interested in me telling me she had guys hitting on her, and in the same line when I heard she was not interested, I had cases in a guy hitting on her with me on her side, with I just pulled her with me ignoring the idiot, with she thanked me later, if you had a diferent case that is interesting, but not something I saw myself, maybe cultural diferences
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interesting. my fbuddy and i constantly laugh about the numerous guys at her work that try to hit on her lol.
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Yes everything they do is for attention, why do you think they wear a pound of makeup. Next time a girl says it, you should have told her she should have gone out with him. Be indifferent to her bs and she will work to get your attention.
Europe is like this mate , maybe on other continents things are different
you have to be crazy to over think , more than “ awww ... she is so cute trying to show me that she is attractive”
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
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