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Do women realize how hard it is for men to get laid compared to being a woman?
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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This. I’m not sure why this is even up for debate in 2019.Women have an easier time getting laid. They're the gate keepers. This one doesn't count getting laid good enough. She also wants an attractive male who gives her orgasms. She can guarantee a lay by going out to a bar or club. I have no sympathy for her.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Her photo is photoshoppedHer name is Jessica Pin, in case the link doesn't go to her comment directly.![]()
Do women realize how hard it is for men to get laid compared to being a woman?
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Agreed. Even Chad doesn’t have TOTAL carte blanche when picking up chicks; he just has a very significant edge over the other guys. I would think that a hot woman (Stacey) would still have more power than Chad.She's saying that when she approaches a guy just for sex, the guy thinks she's too aggressive and creepy.
That may well be her experience. Chalk it up to the ever changing (read: fvcked up) gender roles in the West.
I’m skeptical about this one. I can only think of a few possibilities if she’s too aggressive and the guy turns her down (and creepy isn't one of them):
1. He’s worried about sticking his D in crazy and her causing drama later.
2. He thinks she’s bluffing/Kok-teasing or attention whoring him. All talk no action.
3. She caught him off-guard or intimidated him. He might be tired, drunk, shy, etc. and just missed the boat or froze up.
4. He's genuinely taken or not attracted to her.
I don’t think “creepy” is a concern here per se.
She did quote an interesting (if oversimplified) formula, on how difficult it is:
Attractive men > attractive women > unattractive women > unattractive men.
That would imply Chads have it easiest. I don't know if that's true, but there's little doubt that unattractive men are on the bottom. And to agree with @stormrider above, probably 90% of men fall in the "unattractive" category.
I have seen posts here from guys who didn't like it when women came on too aggressively. Maybe what women call "creepy", we men call "crazy". Women who are too loose sexually are a concern, when it comes to their mental status. Anyway, at worst this chick will simply have to learn how to calibrate her aggression, just like we men do. She likely just needs to tone it down a bit.1. He’s worried about sticking his D in crazy and her causing drama later.
2. He thinks she’s bluffing/Kok-teasing or attention whoring him. All talk no action.
I don’t think “creepy” is a concern here.
Exactly.I have seen posts here from guys who didn't like it when women came on too aggressively. Maybe what women call "creepy", we men call "crazy". Women who are too loose sexually are a concern, when it comes to their mental status. Anyway, at worst this chick will simply have to learn how to calibrate her aggression, just like we men do. She likely just needs to tone it down a bit.
As for her formula (she says she got it from a guy), it would be more interesting if they added "average men" and "average women" into the mix. I'll post my draft version below, although there's still some question as to where "attractive men" would go.
Attractive women > attractive men > average women > unattractive women > average men > unattractive men.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I was thinking that was a possibility, but if you think about the real top guys, like rockstars used to be in my day, or celebrities who are considered hot, they have women virtually throwing themselves at them. But yeah, it's arguable.*It might be arguable that average women have more power than attractive men, but that's splitting hairs.
I agree with that guy who though she is creepy , she is engineer and posting herself naked on qoura, most likely she is crazy woman, or at least have some problems.Her name is Jessica Pin, in case the link doesn't go to her comment directly.![]()
Do women realize how hard it is for men to get laid compared to being a woman?
Answer has been deletedwww.quora.com
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.