"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Why do women see this as a sign of insecurity?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
KontrollerX
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Hence insecurity.
backbreaker
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Yes I am very insecure; about getting HIV, Herpes, Ebola, and every other diease known to man.
so yes, I apologize if I like to know if you are catching another guys yougert besides mine from time to time.
taiyuu_otoko
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DavenJuan
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are you serious??sosilky said:
you shouldnt HAVE to ASK. if you feel it is time for you all to get a bit more serious than tell her. it should go unspoken that she isnt f*cking other guys at this point.
"umm, i know we said we are serious and bf and gf. but im just curious about something.. umm im just wandering if you are nailing other guys? if you are you probably shouldnt, since your my gf"
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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She doesnt like being called the Ho/Slut that she is soo openly... She wants you to make her think you think you are the only one which is seldom the case! She doesn think you are insecure she just doesnt want you prying into her other relationships. AFTER ALL, A REAL DON JUAN WOULD CARE WHAT SHE DOES WHEN SHE LEAVES HIS HOUSEKontrollerX said:
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Only 17% of people wear condoms every time.. Everyone has a past but women tend to have more of a past cause its easier for them to be promiscuous as they dont have to pursue...ZenGodMod said:
BUt most hos end up being someone's wife and mother....soo..... there are enough desperate men around that old used up ho and sluts have no problem finding a man ready to marry them... after they have F'ed 3000+ people...
KontrollerX said:
Well Kontroller with all your knowledge about AWs you know that no matter how Awsome you are your not gonna comand every girls full attention. But I figured someone would give that perspective. It just seems that every girl that throws that crap at me tuns out to be a white trash *****.
Now here's what seems to be the other side of the fence in this subject. this is the reason why I ask girls wht the deal is. Also I don't like to be disrespected or made a fool of. Whether we are serious or not. Your lieing to me. You are garbage.backbreaker said:
What?taiyuu_otoko said:
your a tardDavenJuan said:
I guess I would have to wonder what her reasons were for asking. refer to the first two quotesDonJuan11 said:
Interesting what your saying up until the CAPS. Wouldn't a Don Juan not care what she does when she leaves the house?DonGorgon said:
Was refering to her present, but thanx for the tip.ZenGodMod said:
Wow 3000?DonGorgon said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
MacAvoy
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Can a mod please merge this thread with the original where he asks the question multiple times please
The original title to the thread linked above is "sleeping around, around 30 and lies"sosilky said:
Most women are in fact insecure when they ask that question.
It has to do with how you ask it too:
1) The words. "are you ****ing other guys" vs. "Is this committed or casual"... The second is preferable. Now this is not how exactly you'd phrase it, but my point is you wouldn't ask "are there any other guys" [them-centered]... which is you focusing on THEM... You'd ask her an [us-centered] question. That shows you actually do think you're awesome, and if there are other guys, you don't care, her loss. You just want to know if this relationship is worth investing in. If not, that's cool too.
2) The tonality, body-language and sub-communication you ask it with. You know most of this. If you are in fact secure about how you ask, she won't perceive it as insecure. And if she does, her problem.
For the most part, most of these problems auto-correct themselves by sexual abundance.
What is sexual abundance? It's knowing you can walk out any day, any time, anywhere and meet a new woman (or 5), and be able to date a healthy percentage of them.
Even if you marry this girl and she's your one and only and you never even feel the need for another girl... the truth is, you can't know if you aren't settling or fooling yourself... until you have sexual abundance.
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I was asked this on a date and I came up with some blatant lie....in retrospect that was a mistake but I mean girls are going to be more inclined to lie anyways.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.