"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Why do women see this as a sign of insecurity?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
KontrollerX
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Hence insecurity.
backbreaker
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Yes I am very insecure; about getting HIV, Herpes, Ebola, and every other diease known to man.
so yes, I apologize if I like to know if you are catching another guys yougert besides mine from time to time.
taiyuu_otoko
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DavenJuan
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are you serious??sosilky said:
you shouldnt HAVE to ASK. if you feel it is time for you all to get a bit more serious than tell her. it should go unspoken that she isnt f*cking other guys at this point.
"umm, i know we said we are serious and bf and gf. but im just curious about something.. umm im just wandering if you are nailing other guys? if you are you probably shouldnt, since your my gf"
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
DonGorgon
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She doesnt like being called the Ho/Slut that she is soo openly... She wants you to make her think you think you are the only one which is seldom the case! She doesn think you are insecure she just doesnt want you prying into her other relationships. AFTER ALL, A REAL DON JUAN WOULD CARE WHAT SHE DOES WHEN SHE LEAVES HIS HOUSEKontrollerX said:
DonGorgon
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Only 17% of people wear condoms every time.. Everyone has a past but women tend to have more of a past cause its easier for them to be promiscuous as they dont have to pursue...ZenGodMod said:
BUt most hos end up being someone's wife and mother....soo..... there are enough desperate men around that old used up ho and sluts have no problem finding a man ready to marry them... after they have F'ed 3000+ people...
KontrollerX said:
Well Kontroller with all your knowledge about AWs you know that no matter how Awsome you are your not gonna comand every girls full attention. But I figured someone would give that perspective. It just seems that every girl that throws that crap at me tuns out to be a white trash *****.
Now here's what seems to be the other side of the fence in this subject. this is the reason why I ask girls wht the deal is. Also I don't like to be disrespected or made a fool of. Whether we are serious or not. Your lieing to me. You are garbage.backbreaker said:
What?taiyuu_otoko said:
your a tardDavenJuan said:
I guess I would have to wonder what her reasons were for asking. refer to the first two quotesDonJuan11 said:
Interesting what your saying up until the CAPS. Wouldn't a Don Juan not care what she does when she leaves the house?DonGorgon said:
Was refering to her present, but thanx for the tip.ZenGodMod said:
Wow 3000?DonGorgon said:
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Can a mod please merge this thread with the original where he asks the question multiple times please
The original title to the thread linked above is "sleeping around, around 30 and lies"sosilky said:
Most women are in fact insecure when they ask that question.
It has to do with how you ask it too:
1) The words. "are you ****ing other guys" vs. "Is this committed or casual"... The second is preferable. Now this is not how exactly you'd phrase it, but my point is you wouldn't ask "are there any other guys" [them-centered]... which is you focusing on THEM... You'd ask her an [us-centered] question. That shows you actually do think you're awesome, and if there are other guys, you don't care, her loss. You just want to know if this relationship is worth investing in. If not, that's cool too.
2) The tonality, body-language and sub-communication you ask it with. You know most of this. If you are in fact secure about how you ask, she won't perceive it as insecure. And if she does, her problem.
For the most part, most of these problems auto-correct themselves by sexual abundance.
What is sexual abundance? It's knowing you can walk out any day, any time, anywhere and meet a new woman (or 5), and be able to date a healthy percentage of them.
Even if you marry this girl and she's your one and only and you never even feel the need for another girl... the truth is, you can't know if you aren't settling or fooling yourself... until you have sexual abundance.
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I was asked this on a date and I came up with some blatant lie....in retrospect that was a mistake but I mean girls are going to be more inclined to lie anyways.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.