"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Why do women cheat?
- Thread starter Arthy
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Women are not only dishonest, disloyal, but they are WEAK in their convictions.
Men are strong in their convictions because we feel it is the makeup of our souls.
Where woman are emotional basket cases.
No.Danny
Master Don Juan
Point is once she's emotionally cheated it's over.
This is all true until proven otherwise.
Skyline
Master Don Juan
If the man is acting weak and or needy, then it will almost be a GUARANTEE that she will cheat. This is in the sense that she's coming from a place of high attraction. It also doesn't help that social media and society's portrayal of women being "strong and independent," makes the value of women sky rocket thus creating more options/attention from men therefore giving women the option to cheat within a finger tapping distance. All of this attention makes her now weak and needy male suddenly become more and more unattractive... Women are not meant to "spin plates" or be hypergamic. Their bodies aren't even wired to undergo pregnancy more than once or twice whilst men can ejaculate multiple times within a single day. That's just how nature wired us. But the thing is, once she thinks about cheating then all of the above I stated just makes it easier if not tempting. It's true you will have some chances to "redeem" yourself from your weak and or needy behavior especially if she finds you highly attractive but even that has a limit.Arthy said:
With that being said, you need to have your A game on when going into a relationship and sometimes even when dating. A few mistakes can result in her cheating. The only real reason, without the woman having psychological problems, is because the male is acting weak and or needy. Even with all the attention she gets, if she's really attractive, you really need to stand your ground and keep your frame.
Maintaining a relationship is A LOT harder than what people, and society, make it out to be.
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1. They were raised to be a whooore.
2. The man in their life isn't alpha and doesn't know how to keep her happy.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Skyline
Master Don Juan
Yes. Is there an issue?El Payaso said:
I was aiming towards the "women aren't wired by nature to be hyerpgramic" route by the way, I'm pretty sure I did say that. Was just an example.
Skyline
Master Don Juan
If you have 30 different buckets with close to the same amount of water, yet some are more clear while others more dark, does it really matter which one you pick?El Payaso said:
At the end of the day, you're still going to get wet. It doesn't matter why "water is wet." It's the "how" it gets wet is what's more important. How is this relevant to women/my posts? The buckets are men.
No.Danny
Master Don Juan
So you're basically saying "why are 30 men holding water, and why are some lighter then others?"Frayzer said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Well, wetness is our description of what we feel when we put our hand in water. Saying water is wet is like saying that wood is hard or fire is hot.El Payaso said:
Sensory receptors on our hand send information about the water to our brain. Our brain receives the information from our sensory receptors and processes it. A combination of temperature, pressure and the way water moves tells our brain that water is wet.
old_skoolr
Master Don Juan
Women cheat coz men are a.ssholes.
I could go on to talk about how a relationship might might be hampered by psychological factors like low self-esteem, but it might get a bit tedious so I will leave it at that.
Love,
Amethyst
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
VikingKing
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Big Nuts
Senior Don Juan
The only preventative measure is to ensure you always strive to maintain high value. The best way to do this is to choose happiness and fulfillment for yourself at all times...she is secondary...but she will follow.
VikingKing
Banned
Big Nuts said:
This is really true.
When I was being a druggy, my ex was very loyal. Once I started to "clean up" ect.. and "fix" things is when she cheated, if she did. Idk if she did, she never admitted it.
But it could be you having obsession with long distance running, weight lifting, rock climbing. Give her a taste of being your first priority, then stop giving her that.
She will chase and chase and chase the feeling of being the first priority. She will become engrossed with you.
rep +1
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.