Why do we always make it seem like these traits are mutually exclusive?

[bigdave17]

loving
affectionate
honest
caring

vs

strong
assertive
independent


Everybody makes it seem like you either have to be the "alpha badboy" who shows no emotion and acts like a douchebag or you have to be the needy, weak, clingy bitchboy


I'm very affectionate and loving towards all the people in my circle but I tolerate zero disrespect and I'm never afraid to stand up and say something if something is wrong. I'm never clingy. If I text somebody once and they don't respond, I wait until however long is necessary. I give people space when they ask for space. Why do we make it seem like it's impossible to feature both traits?

 

[zekko]

I do agree with your post in this instance. The PUA community has always presented the world as if it's black and white - You're either a full on douchebag @sshole or you're a weak simpering AFC. No in between. Life isn't really like that.

It's like alphas and betas, it's best seen as just being a teaching tool, and not as an example of real life.

 

[highSpeed]

loving
affectionate
honest
caring

vs

strong
assertive
independent


Everybody makes it seem like you either have to be the "alpha badboy" who shows no emotion and acts like a douchebag or you have to be the needy, weak, clingy bitchboy


I'm very affectionate and loving towards all the people in my circle but I tolerate zero disrespect and I'm never afraid to stand up and say something if something is wrong. I'm never clingy. If I text somebody once and they don't respond, I wait until however long is necessary. I give people space when they ask for space. Why do we make it seem like it's impossible to feature both traits?

No one and I do mean no one, is any one thing all the time. We are always a combination of a number of different traits and responses. Anyone who pretends otherwise is lying to themselves and/or anyone else.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Its not black and white. Some of the mob figures where known to be tender and loving to their family and loved ones.