"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Why do they do it

toasttopper1879

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I once had oneitis for a girl, so I gotaway as best I could.We live close by so pf course I would bump into her every now and then,but I managed to keep the meetings short & civil.She may or may not of knew how much I liked her.I never told her or anyone else.
About 6 months has passed now & I've moved on.However I'm out in a local fun bar with friends and riight out the blue appears this very girl.Theres a few of us blokes but she dives on me for a huge hug.I decided to be flirty,hugged back,told her I had nt recognised her from behind as I thought she'd gained a few pounds (she's very slim) nipped her bum and moved her on.
I found another girl to dance with but I was interupted,dragged away to dance with first girl and she pointed out she was far slimmer than the other girl I'd gone to dance with.
Now I know this girl has no interest in me whatsoever and I dare say she was looking for a ego boost.What I dont understand is why me.Theres other blokes that are my mates that she could flirt with for a ego boost.I cant understand why she needs this reassurance from me.Any ideas.
Cheers.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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G-Man UK

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Sounds like a AW to me m8, steer clear it ain't worth it.

Respect

G-man
 

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Originally posted by toasttopper1879
I know she's a attention seeker.I dont know why she requires the attention from me.Thats my concern

I don't think you should be concerned. If you know she's an AW then forget her. Don't try too hard analyse the female mind and why they do what they do..

...maybe she felt like an ego boost you were chosen at random/ she finds you slightly more attractive than the other guys that were there at the time

"She may or may not of knew how much I liked her"

....girls like to know how a guy feels about them; maybe she just wanted to confirm that she could have you any time she wanted - again its just another ego boost.

In the end it doesn't really matter...unless she continuously does it..but from your post in only seems to be a single event. maybe she was just overly drunk that night:confused:
 

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Do you want us to tell you that you were wrong about her and she DOES like you?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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yep, sounds like she's totally in love with you. I suggest you propose marriage before you break her heart.
 

toasttopper1879

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Cheers boys. Like I said I've moved on and this one and I have no desire to return.But if you think proposing marriage might get rid of her then I'll give it a try.
 
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