"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Why do some girls refer to you as "friend" yet still hook up with you?

Barbillus

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Hey,

I know, I know, a girls mind is the most difficult thing to understand.. but there is something that I just really don't get!

Why do some girls refer to a guy as their friend, yet HOOK UP with them??!!!!! And then, you hook up with them and go out on dates with them for a couple months later.. and they STILL refer to you as a friend??!!!!
Is this a trend among many younger girls? Or is this just an isolated case!!??

From day one when I met this latest girl I was referred to as a friend.
Story is in this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=57688
*Btw feel free to offer you opinion on that thread, still looking for some more comments.


Anyhow, on my first date with the above chick, her cell phone rang and she was talking for a couple min and I hear at one point say "I am hanging out with my new friend Barbillus!!!" and she says this while looking at me.
I played cool, and by the second date I just made my move and we started hooking up.
BUt still like many dates later this chick would do the same thing!! Refer to Barbillus as the friend!! I just dont get it!

WHen I am hooking up with a girl, I don't tell my guy friends, "Oh that is my friend Barbillia, I am going to hang out with her tonight." No! No! No! I say: "I am hanging out with Barbillia tonight, she is the girl I have been hooking up with lately." Or she is the girls I am "seeing." Not my friend!! THen if it came down to it and the chick went exclusive I would use the girlfriend word!


Why? Why?!! Why?!!!
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Gangster Of Love

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Because it sounds better than saying "My F-buddy", if its a male friend they'll say "my friend....", if they have no interest, they'll make sure they mention "oh, we're just friends."

What else would you call it if you are not boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife? They are not gonna say "booty call".
 

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Usually, it's an "um...friend", as in "This is my ummm.....friend."

That's if you are not a bf, and she doesn't want to say "This is the guy I'm bonning."
 

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This questions has been answered before ... And let me tell you, it means jack.

Now, just because a womansays you are her friend doesn't mean she will not let you bang her. I knew a girl once who told people she knew that I was her friend and wanted me to sleep with her a week later.


Any person a girl knows and like is considered a friend.

Basically, any guy a girl knows ais considered a friend.
Her boyfriend is even considered a friend. Her blood brother is considered a friend. Her whole family is considered friends.

Just stop analyzing..
 

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Originally posted by Barbillus
I say: "I am hanging out with Barbillia tonight, she is the girl I have been hooking up with lately."
A girl would look like a slut if she said that.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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