"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Why do some girls refer to you as "friend" yet still hook up with you?

Barbillus

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Hey,

I know, I know, a girls mind is the most difficult thing to understand.. but there is something that I just really don't get!

Why do some girls refer to a guy as their friend, yet HOOK UP with them??!!!!! And then, you hook up with them and go out on dates with them for a couple months later.. and they STILL refer to you as a friend??!!!!
Is this a trend among many younger girls? Or is this just an isolated case!!??

From day one when I met this latest girl I was referred to as a friend.
Story is in this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=57688
*Btw feel free to offer you opinion on that thread, still looking for some more comments.


Anyhow, on my first date with the above chick, her cell phone rang and she was talking for a couple min and I hear at one point say "I am hanging out with my new friend Barbillus!!!" and she says this while looking at me.
I played cool, and by the second date I just made my move and we started hooking up.
BUt still like many dates later this chick would do the same thing!! Refer to Barbillus as the friend!! I just dont get it!

WHen I am hooking up with a girl, I don't tell my guy friends, "Oh that is my friend Barbillia, I am going to hang out with her tonight." No! No! No! I say: "I am hanging out with Barbillia tonight, she is the girl I have been hooking up with lately." Or she is the girls I am "seeing." Not my friend!! THen if it came down to it and the chick went exclusive I would use the girlfriend word!


Why? Why?!! Why?!!!
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Gangster Of Love

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Because it sounds better than saying "My F-buddy", if its a male friend they'll say "my friend....", if they have no interest, they'll make sure they mention "oh, we're just friends."

What else would you call it if you are not boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife? They are not gonna say "booty call".
 

Good_ol_boy

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Usually, it's an "um...friend", as in "This is my ummm.....friend."

That's if you are not a bf, and she doesn't want to say "This is the guy I'm bonning."
 

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This questions has been answered before ... And let me tell you, it means jack.

Now, just because a womansays you are her friend doesn't mean she will not let you bang her. I knew a girl once who told people she knew that I was her friend and wanted me to sleep with her a week later.


Any person a girl knows and like is considered a friend.

Basically, any guy a girl knows ais considered a friend.
Her boyfriend is even considered a friend. Her blood brother is considered a friend. Her whole family is considered friends.

Just stop analyzing..
 

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Originally posted by Barbillus
I say: "I am hanging out with Barbillia tonight, she is the girl I have been hooking up with lately."
A girl would look like a slut if she said that.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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