"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Why do I feel sooo good?

FunkyMillion

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I don't know guys but for some unknown reason... I feel very good.

here is the story..... about a year and a half ago I decided to make a change in my life. First I lost about 50-60 pounds, then I decided to clear my mind and clear any one-itis in my head so I asked these two girls out (that happens to be friends) because I liked them for about a year but never had some balls to say something; and both of them rejected me.

But now I'm trimmed, I got buffed up and everyone I know notices it. I converted all those anger into a motivation to get into the gym and pump some iron.

For some reason I just feel good because I change a lot and girls who rejected me didn't change, they either got fat or got ugly in my book. Now I feel confident about myself and it seems like my environment around me is more at ease than before.

Next step.... learning how to approach because rejection is pretty much nothing to me, I just don't care about it anymore.

it's all about baby steps....

-Funk
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dapper Swindler

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I think you answered your own question
 

Hollowpoint

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That's excellent!

Keep improving yourself! I love the positivity!
 

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Short term pain... long term pleasure! :D
 

squirrels

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That always feels good...when you meet back up with those girls who rejected you and they got all fat and ugly and have like, 2 kids at home and a deadbeat ex-husband who doesn't pay his child-support on time. And you're just STARTING to hit the prime of your life. :)

Anyway...don't get too immersed in that...keep focusing on yourself.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Pulsar

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yeah don't gloat. Just keep on trying to improve yourself and try to help others...even those that tried to knock you down before, coz at the end of the day you don't want to make the mistake that they made towards you.
 
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