"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Why do I diss girls that are interested in me?

sbgm

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Why do I always diss the girls who likes me and every girl I like doesn't like me?

Anyone who had this problem and solved it, please respond! Thank you.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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zekko

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I really think most of this seduction stuff is all about value.
If you're a 7, you're going to be most attracted to 8s and 9s (who will have better options than you).
Meantime, the 6s and below are going to be attracted to you because you are higher value than them. But you will want better so you diss them.

The solution is to either raise your value so you can get 8s and above, find someone on your level, or find a lower value girl that you like.
Or you can do like Mystery, and fake being high value long enough to get them into bed. But it probably won't work much longer than that.
 

handle

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you straight-up insulting them? usually inadvertently dissing girls has worked out well for me.
 

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i usually diss the girls i'm insecure around (meaning the ones that I like). i'm actually nice to the girls i have no interest in. weird.
 

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You could be an ******* who's only nice to those who don't want you, and treat you poorly. Typically, *******s are only nice to *****es who put them down - as they're perceived as being high value. Seeking their approval is normal for *******s. Low self-esteem is usually at the root of this problem, and all that crap about replaying earlier experiences of abuse and neglect, and trying to be good enough this time. Your perspectives are skewed on what high value actually is - its not the snobby *****es who neglect you, but the nice ones who care about you. This applies to people in general. Only those who care are worth worrying about.

If you don't actually insult them, and are simply referring to a lack of interest - this is very normal. Everyone wants what they can't have, and is out of their reach. Everyone complains about not liking those who want them, and wanting those who don't. Not to say this is healthy - IF you continue to pine after them. That usually means you have low self-esteem, and are gonna be alone forever.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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