"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Why do I diss girls that are interested in me?

sbgm

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Why do I always diss the girls who likes me and every girl I like doesn't like me?

Anyone who had this problem and solved it, please respond! Thank you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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zekko

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I really think most of this seduction stuff is all about value.
If you're a 7, you're going to be most attracted to 8s and 9s (who will have better options than you).
Meantime, the 6s and below are going to be attracted to you because you are higher value than them. But you will want better so you diss them.

The solution is to either raise your value so you can get 8s and above, find someone on your level, or find a lower value girl that you like.
Or you can do like Mystery, and fake being high value long enough to get them into bed. But it probably won't work much longer than that.
 

handle

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you straight-up insulting them? usually inadvertently dissing girls has worked out well for me.
 

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i usually diss the girls i'm insecure around (meaning the ones that I like). i'm actually nice to the girls i have no interest in. weird.
 

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You could be an ******* who's only nice to those who don't want you, and treat you poorly. Typically, *******s are only nice to *****es who put them down - as they're perceived as being high value. Seeking their approval is normal for *******s. Low self-esteem is usually at the root of this problem, and all that crap about replaying earlier experiences of abuse and neglect, and trying to be good enough this time. Your perspectives are skewed on what high value actually is - its not the snobby *****es who neglect you, but the nice ones who care about you. This applies to people in general. Only those who care are worth worrying about.

If you don't actually insult them, and are simply referring to a lack of interest - this is very normal. Everyone wants what they can't have, and is out of their reach. Everyone complains about not liking those who want them, and wanting those who don't. Not to say this is healthy - IF you continue to pine after them. That usually means you have low self-esteem, and are gonna be alone forever.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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