Dhoulmagus
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Like I'm looking at girls hs vs now and they have gained so much weight since. How do they let this happen to them?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I don't understand how anyone in general can be fat and not look in the mirror and be like, "Ok...I f*cked up" then make it their highest priority to get healthy.The same way most men do.
My ex is ballooning and keeps complaiining about it. I have told her to learn how to cook a freakin meal, but she refuses to because that's the man's job. In addition, most females I know don't know how to cook either lol. Most men I know had to learn how to cook because they started weight lifting like I did.One factor is because so many modern women simply have no culinary skills
and survive on very unhealthy diets consisting of fast foods and microwavable dinners.
The British chef Gordon Ramsay's tried to address this on his program the F-word, with his
focus on "Get women back in the kitchen"
Copy and paste from wikipedia..
Women in the kitchen[edit]
A major component of series 1 was Ramsay's "Get Women Back in the Kitchen" campaign. In a self-administered survey, he found that three-quarters of women could not cook, with some 78% never cooking a regular evening dinner. Women found cooking to be a chore, whereas men found it to be an enjoyable activity. Ramsay claimed that women "know how to mix ****tails but can't cook to save their lives."[19]
Ramsay's findings were met with mixed reactions. While some of his contemporaries, like Nigella Lawson, previously stated similar opinions, other celebrity chefs, like Clarissa ****son Wright, felt Ramsay's proposition was "rubbish and about ten years out of date".[20] Wright felt that these comments undermined the increased enrollment of women at culinary schools across the United Kingdom. His intentions have been misunderstood by some who believe that he thinks women belong in the kitchen or should be doing the cooking for their husbands, whereas his real desire is to help women who want to be able to cook but lack the confidence or motivation
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I can't tell if that's a joke or what.I have told her to learn how to cook a freakin meal, but she refuses to because that's the man's job.
I guess it is nowI can't tell if that's a joke or what.
In which western societies are men traditionally expected to do the cooking!?
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
The most fundamental rule is the "NC" rule, and that rule includes not thinking and talking about exes.My ex is ballooning and keeps complaiining about it. I have told her to learn how to cook a freakin meal, but she refuses to because that's the man's job. In addition, most females I know don't know how to cook either lol. Most men I know had to learn how to cook because they started weight lifting like I did.
Haven't you ever come across fast a$$ men? Who do you think most of them settle for?There is this tatted up land whale at work that is probably 35. She has a kid and a fiance. Why on earth would anyone want her fat a ss?
We are here to have a good, healthy, and objective discussions and not encourage "sexism" and hatred towards women. When women are wrong, let's call them out on their B.S. When women are right, let's given them the credit. Fair enough?I appologize... but for me, a woman stops being a woman once she loses her figure. I'm just not attracted to gorillas!!! LOL!!! I mean, how am I supposed to get hard enough to do the deed? God has blessed them with something great, and they destroy it. Stupid fools!!!
True, but whenever I see couples they generally fall into the following three categories,Guys do the same thing and gain 25-80 lbs when they get into an LTR or Marriage. We have to maintain our end of the bargain as much as them.
Because women don't give two **** about muscles.True, but whenever I see couples they generally fall into the following three categories,
1) Both guy and girl are fit
2) Guy is fit, girl is a whale
3) They're both whales
I see #2 a lot, but rarely ever the other way around. Every time I see a fit dude holding hands with a whale I die a little bit on the inside. Why you gotta do this?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.