Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Why asking for advice isn't always good

Eternal

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I notice a LOT of people on here asking for advice on just about everything. While some of the questions are good, some aren't. Here is why:

You won't get the best results from other peoples advice. We don't know the whole situation, don't know how you think, and don't know exactly how thing will turn out.

Besides, it is best to do something and then learn from it. You'll learn 10 times more from DOING than from just trying to get advice. Go talk to a girl. Go ahead, any girl. Now write down anything you want advice on. Ask for it, but go talk to another girl before reading the advice. Now do it again and still don't read the first advice. Ok, now come back and read the advice. I bet that some of your questions got answered once you actually did something (approached the second and third time.) Plus, I bet you learned some new things too.

Remember, you don't become a great baseball hitter just by asking. You don't become a great driver just by asking. You don't become a great salesman just by asking.

You go out there and just do it to become better.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Eternal

this is great advice.
In fact for the most part this is the only advice you should need.
Experience.

Hey Eternal, how's your web site going?

I know I promised I would be active on it(cricket was my user name) but I haven't been.

Shortly after I said that, my dad got cancer and then he died last month. So I've been pretty fuucked up. So I hardly ever post anymore. I guess I just don't care at the moment.
 

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Originally posted by Helter Skelter
Eternal

this is great advice.
In fact for the most part this is the only advice you should need.
Experience.

Hey Eternal, how's your web site going?

I know I promised I would be active on it(cricket was my user name) but I haven't been.

Shortly after I said that, my dad got cancer and then he died last month. So I've been pretty fuucked up. So I hardly ever post anymore. I guess I just don't care at the moment.
Hey man, sorry to hear about that. Hopefully you bounce back out of it and become the Helter Skelter you were before.

The site is currently defunct until I decide on what to do with it. Not a lot happened with it to begin with anyway.

Glad to see you back, even if it's limited.
 

WesCottII

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good solid advice.

Go out do.
review.
change accordingly.
go out do,
 
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