spider_007
Master Don Juan
It just hit me. I wonder haw many people are gona be hanging on the internat (this forum) on a new years (party day of the year).
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
eh...to each his own I guess. Maybe you went to "low-quality" clubs?Originally posted by Inc. ©
When I first turned 21, I spend about a year going out almost every Friday and Saturday nights to the stupid clubs and trendy bars. I'm not going to say its a waste of time, but its an experience, and it's a past experience. I laugh now when I read the main forum and some guy talks about his "approach" at the club as if that is some kind of accomplishment. I had plenty of approaches at the clubs and crowded bars, but any loser can do that so its worthless. You'll meet low quality women. I'm not saying not to have your fun and your one night stands (I still do on occassion), but Friday and Saturday nights aren't nearly as appealing to me anymore. If I do go out on those nights, it's going to be to a mellow place. I understand most of the posters here are 22 and under though.
Aren't people these days trying to get enougn drinking and clubbing experience before they actualy turn 21 (using fake id etc)? It seems it is not that fun when you are allowed to do those things anymore... At least this is what I noticed.Originally posted by h2o
I don't know, I just turned 21 this summer, I'll be taking advantage of it for a while...again, to each his own...