Originally posted by squirrels
WaterTiger...you're saying we SHOULD get angry at the BS every now and then?
This site preaches being calm and cool and letting the drama roll off our backs, but what you're saying seems to contradict that. YOu don't consider it a sign of weakness when you're able to "ruffle our feathers?"
True...but how much drama/bullpoo are you going to put up with? If you ignore her drama, she's going to make it worse and worse till she really makes you loose your temper and then you have lost your cool. Isn't it better to "fake" a little drama back at her while you are in total control of yourself, than an hour later and you're screaming like a lunatic?
Women get "dramatic" for three reasons:
A- emotional overload (that I explained earlier)
B- yanking your chain (pissed off at something else and you're close)
C- she's actually mad at something (like she got fired)
The first two reasons can be handled in the same way. If you firmly call her on the bull when it starts, then she understands that you don't put up with it. You've shown her that you have emotions as well, but you keep them controled.
If she's actually mad at something genuine, then you need to be cool, calm and rational.