Basically I got this waitress to like me at this establishment where I hang out. I had a issue with her co worker who we will refer to as A. She will be Kate and the 3rd girl I'll refer to Jane. Jane a is a dumbass. I told her that I offended A and now Kate thinks I was talking about her. Suggestions?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Why are girls dumb?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Clarify it to Kate..?
youngmack
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This is what you do.....
Take out your penis and put in on Jane's forehead,im telling you it WILL work.....Works everytime
Take out your penis and put in on Jane's forehead,im telling you it WILL work.....Works everytime
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What I would personally do is what I call "burn it into the ground". So if Kate thinks you were talking about her, instead of explaining myself, I would "roll with it" and continue "talking about her", except in a comedic way.
That's just me though.
That's just me though.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
how about DROP THE FVCKING DRAMA and move on! Be a man and extricate yourself from the situation until everything calms down!
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