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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've met me?MacAvoy said:Based on the original question, I'm going to have to say that Luveno is the most naive person I've ever met.
I'm not here to start a "flame war". If you don't like my post, that's fine. But insulting someone you've never met is poor form.MacAvoy said:I've never met you but your definately the most naive person I've ever come across. Even more so demonstrated by your response to my post.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I agree with the above quote 100% but you OP isn't exactly rocket science. As for your OP, I would have thought that for 99.9% of the population, that it was a given.Luveno said:I'm not here to start a "flame war". If you don't like my post, that's fine. But insulting someone you've never met is poor form.
Instead of attacking the messenger, attack the message. Try it. It works better.
I always thought it's funny when dudes throw out the affirmative action argument but don't mention legacy admissions, nepotism, and all the other forms of white affirmative action. I'm not putting a judgement on either, neither of them bother me, but if you're gonna blame the social forces that help minorities, you need to also taken into account the social forces the help the majorityketostix said:Women and minorities are overrepresented.
Because what you're saying is mostly a myth. The benefits of coming from money don't apply to just someone who's white. Minorities want minority rule pure and simple. How is that fair? It's not.ready123 said:I always thought it's funny when dudes throw out the affirmative action argument but don't mention legacy admissions, nepotism, and all the other forms of white affirmative action. I'm not putting a judgement on either, neither of them bother me, but if you're gonna blame the social forces that help minorities, you need to also taken into account the social forces the help the majority
also, how come ragging on affirmative action comes so easily but we don't even think about legacy admissions?
--> institutionalized racism
I'm going off on a tangent but the best proposal I ever heard for an alternative to affirmative action, at least for college admissions, was to to use economic and region criteria, instead of just race. that way all the poor kids who get bussed to high school 3 hours a day and gotta work to pay rent (and have that much less time to study), can be put on par with the kids that are well offketostix said:Because what you're saying is mostly a myth. The benefits of coming from money don't apply to just someone who's white. Minorities want minority role pure and simple. How is that fair? It's not.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
GPA has always been a factor in college admission, even with affirmative action.But it's idealistic and totally ignores the fact that college/university is not primary school, you are not going in with a clean slate.
yeah, well that's the thing. They SHOULD have had time to study, but they don't. Life is fvcked up like that. So where should we draw the line?I agree disadvantaged students should get assistance, but it needs to come EARLY. These kids should have had time to study in high school so they could have good marks, do well on SAT's, and rightfully get into college.