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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You've met me?MacAvoy said:Based on the original question, I'm going to have to say that Luveno is the most naive person I've ever met.
I'm not here to start a "flame war". If you don't like my post, that's fine. But insulting someone you've never met is poor form.MacAvoy said:I've never met you but your definately the most naive person I've ever come across. Even more so demonstrated by your response to my post.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I agree with the above quote 100% but you OP isn't exactly rocket science. As for your OP, I would have thought that for 99.9% of the population, that it was a given.Luveno said:I'm not here to start a "flame war". If you don't like my post, that's fine. But insulting someone you've never met is poor form.
Instead of attacking the messenger, attack the message. Try it. It works better.
I always thought it's funny when dudes throw out the affirmative action argument but don't mention legacy admissions, nepotism, and all the other forms of white affirmative action. I'm not putting a judgement on either, neither of them bother me, but if you're gonna blame the social forces that help minorities, you need to also taken into account the social forces the help the majorityketostix said:Women and minorities are overrepresented.
Because what you're saying is mostly a myth. The benefits of coming from money don't apply to just someone who's white. Minorities want minority rule pure and simple. How is that fair? It's not.ready123 said:I always thought it's funny when dudes throw out the affirmative action argument but don't mention legacy admissions, nepotism, and all the other forms of white affirmative action. I'm not putting a judgement on either, neither of them bother me, but if you're gonna blame the social forces that help minorities, you need to also taken into account the social forces the help the majority
also, how come ragging on affirmative action comes so easily but we don't even think about legacy admissions?
--> institutionalized racism
I'm going off on a tangent but the best proposal I ever heard for an alternative to affirmative action, at least for college admissions, was to to use economic and region criteria, instead of just race. that way all the poor kids who get bussed to high school 3 hours a day and gotta work to pay rent (and have that much less time to study), can be put on par with the kids that are well offketostix said:Because what you're saying is mostly a myth. The benefits of coming from money don't apply to just someone who's white. Minorities want minority role pure and simple. How is that fair? It's not.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
GPA has always been a factor in college admission, even with affirmative action.But it's idealistic and totally ignores the fact that college/university is not primary school, you are not going in with a clean slate.
yeah, well that's the thing. They SHOULD have had time to study, but they don't. Life is fvcked up like that. So where should we draw the line?I agree disadvantaged students should get assistance, but it needs to come EARLY. These kids should have had time to study in high school so they could have good marks, do well on SAT's, and rightfully get into college.