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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You've met me?MacAvoy said:Based on the original question, I'm going to have to say that Luveno is the most naive person I've ever met.
I'm not here to start a "flame war". If you don't like my post, that's fine. But insulting someone you've never met is poor form.MacAvoy said:I've never met you but your definately the most naive person I've ever come across. Even more so demonstrated by your response to my post.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I agree with the above quote 100% but you OP isn't exactly rocket science. As for your OP, I would have thought that for 99.9% of the population, that it was a given.Luveno said:I'm not here to start a "flame war". If you don't like my post, that's fine. But insulting someone you've never met is poor form.
Instead of attacking the messenger, attack the message. Try it. It works better.
I always thought it's funny when dudes throw out the affirmative action argument but don't mention legacy admissions, nepotism, and all the other forms of white affirmative action. I'm not putting a judgement on either, neither of them bother me, but if you're gonna blame the social forces that help minorities, you need to also taken into account the social forces the help the majorityketostix said:Women and minorities are overrepresented.
Because what you're saying is mostly a myth. The benefits of coming from money don't apply to just someone who's white. Minorities want minority rule pure and simple. How is that fair? It's not.ready123 said:I always thought it's funny when dudes throw out the affirmative action argument but don't mention legacy admissions, nepotism, and all the other forms of white affirmative action. I'm not putting a judgement on either, neither of them bother me, but if you're gonna blame the social forces that help minorities, you need to also taken into account the social forces the help the majority
also, how come ragging on affirmative action comes so easily but we don't even think about legacy admissions?
--> institutionalized racism
I'm going off on a tangent but the best proposal I ever heard for an alternative to affirmative action, at least for college admissions, was to to use economic and region criteria, instead of just race. that way all the poor kids who get bussed to high school 3 hours a day and gotta work to pay rent (and have that much less time to study), can be put on par with the kids that are well offketostix said:Because what you're saying is mostly a myth. The benefits of coming from money don't apply to just someone who's white. Minorities want minority role pure and simple. How is that fair? It's not.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
GPA has always been a factor in college admission, even with affirmative action.But it's idealistic and totally ignores the fact that college/university is not primary school, you are not going in with a clean slate.
yeah, well that's the thing. They SHOULD have had time to study, but they don't. Life is fvcked up like that. So where should we draw the line?I agree disadvantaged students should get assistance, but it needs to come EARLY. These kids should have had time to study in high school so they could have good marks, do well on SAT's, and rightfully get into college.