"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Why are 165lbs > 185lbs women calling themselves "mid size" when they are fat as phuck?

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I would look at the impact of "body positivity" and related concepts that have been pushed in recent years.

Add in with the tendency for most women to rate themselves and their friends as 10s.

And also how, the average weight / fat percentage has been steadily on the rise for decades.

Somewhere between those issues is where I would make my guess.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Women Will describe themselves as all sorts of nonsense ..

BBW /Big Beautiful woman = fat AF

curvy lady = fat n chunky

and then the cropped close up photos to try cat fish on the apps
 

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Women Will describe themselves as all sorts of nonsense ..

BBW /Big Beautiful woman = fat AF

curvy lady = fat n chunky

and then the cropped close up photos to try cat fish on the apps
Ahh, I almost forgot about that photo rule;

Full body -> no surprises
Chest up -> curvy
Shoulders up -> large
Face only -> xl or larger
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Their thought process is, presumably, similar to that of Dwayne Johnson, Joe Rogan, Chris's Hemsworth, Kumal Nanjani, Hugh Jackman... Every prominent Hollywood actor,,who continues to pretend that their gruesomely jacked physiques are "natural", and not primairly the result of heavy steroid abuse:

Facing the truth can be momentairly uncomfortable, thus MOST PEOPLE create end runs around doing so
 

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Whats your mission exactly ?

The woman in that picture , you probably wouldn't even register in her mind. She will have TONS of orbiters .

She is far from ugly, and if she loses a couple of pounds she will be unstoppable while you will still be complaining.

I seriously dont understand the goal behind threads like these...oh well..
 
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Bodyweight standards and dress sizes have shifted so that female consumers don't feel fat when shopping. An average BMI woman in the 1990s would be considered "skinny" today.
 

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They say "there`s more of me to love" = fat. Might as well just say "easier to see" :lol:
 

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I seriously dont understand the goal behind threads like these...
Life's gotten dull, ever since Cinemax After Dark went the way of the brontosaurus. Gotta trek into rural Congo,
To encounter one of the latter now

Goes without saying, posting on social media is infinitely less strenuous than hiking through the jungle, ergo most folks prefer chose to engage in that first activity
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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We always hear about shrinkflation happening with food but no one is talking about how the opposite is happening with women.
 
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Whats your mission exactly ?

The woman in that picture , you probably wouldn't even register in her mind. She will have TONS of orbiters .

She is far from ugly, and if she loses a couple of pounds she will be unstoppable while you will still be complaining.

I seriously dont understand the goal behind threads like these...oh well..
True, they have lot of orbiters online on ****ty sleazy dating apps who throw some meat into dark corners. But none of them are quality high value men, or well-to-do slim/fit/healthy bmi average-looking white men who respect themselves and have college educations. Most of these pigs get pumped and dumped by some dusty fetishist.

You would never see a black or hispanic male model or athlete, a doctor from Turkey, a wealthy land owner from South Africa, a university teacher from Switzerland, a professor from south Korea or Japan get with some disgusting, fat, pig like plus+ sized creature. More like some low income black or a street sweeper from Venezuela , or a fat taxi driver or chubby fastfood-line-cook from Mexico who would get with one.
 

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One's personal weight and appearance is 100% under the control of the individual. Someone that allows themselves to get overweight indicates a absence of discipline to do what is needed to be healthy. It's not about looks, it's about character.

When I see someone that is overweight, I do not think they look terrible, my first thought is that they do not have enough respect for themselves or discipline.
 

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From what i read, healthy range for a 5ft4 woman is 108lbs to 142lbs. So "mid size" would be 126lbs, and given some leeway for muscle mass (+/- 5 pounds) around 121-131lbs, no?
Women are overweight, pure and simple. If you're above the average for a woman your height, you're overweight. Tired of this "chubby" sh*t.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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