Why am I obsessing over this?

[Paarth Shah]

Im in the transition, I didnt become red pill aware until just a few weeks ago. For those I've interacted with, I thank you deeply for your guidance.

Why do I feel like I need to analyze every failed scenario with a woman? I understand the concepts you all have said: Alpha frame, abundance, confidence, strong mindset. But yet, I feel that you guys wouldn't lose any girls, whereas I feel that with me, success lies in just a numbers game.

If any one of you ran into a hot girl at a wedding and decided you would have her, would you be successful? The advice I get is to forget about desire and realize she's just one of many. Yet, is it that same mindset that guarantees me success with every potential plate?

 

[cola]

Over analyzing women is like over analyzing rolling dice.

 

[Macaframalama]

Nah, success in this game, like anything in life is never guaranteed no matter how good you get at it, but honing your skill will up your odds. It is very much a numbers game, along with proximity and a willingness to take action, as well as many other things. Even when you feel that you are at the top of your game and slaying I think most do or certainly should have low ratios of pulls to fails. A man should constantly be trying to level up, punch above his weight and acheive higher quality women.

 

[marmel75]

Because you dont have enough women to date so you worry about every one you do much more than you should.

If you had an endless supply of women would you care what happened with any one of them? Work on getting yourself an endless supply of women.

 

[greatsnake]

It sounds like it may be your insecurities/self-doubts generating all that. It’s a numbers game— the more abundance you have , you won’t have the time to over analyze every failed situation.

 

[marmel75]

Sometimes yes. Sometimes no.



There is no guarantee you will land every potential plate, which is a big part of your problem if you think there is a way to achieve that.

Failure is part of the game, no matter who you are or what your approach is.

People who want to eliminate failure dont realize their greatest successes will come because of it.

 

[ohrein]

I feel that you guys wouldn't lose any girls

Anyone who claims they can get any girl is a liar. There's this myth that Brad Pitt could get any woman, he could steal your wife or your girlfriend at any time because he's the pinnacle alpha male. It is not that absolute at all. Now, if you're dating a woman and your relationship is suffering and you're not gaming her and being the best version of yourself, any average guy could definitely take your woman. Men must guide the relationship and stoke the fires.

But back to the point, it's the same as anyone at the top of their field. They don't always win, they just win a lot and usually because they fail a lot. You build success out of failure. What you need to focus on is not letting failure bother you. You keep moving forward, you become the best you and you keep trying to date women. Embrace failure, it's how you grow.

EDIT: There's lots of gold in this thread, you should take note of it.

 

[Spidah]

Any guy who doesn't have an abundance mindset will get walked on by women emotionally.

Its always a numbers game and you only want to deal with bitches who get with your program. The reason why is a bytch who can't get with your program is not adding to your life. She is just draining your time and energy. So you drop those bitches without a second thought.

 

[skinnyguy]

Yeah it is a numbers game. I’ve gotten blown out by women so much. Yet I have a date with an HB 9.5 Instagram model next week.

I hyperanalyze failed dating scenarios too but hey just learn from them. A lot of women out there are just trash it’s not your fault.