"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

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whoa...wth happened, i thought she was into me, she rejected my offer

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Anyway to put this brief, i finally asked out this hb7 today cause i
#1 figured she had interest
#2 had dragged this 2 weeks straight w/o asking out
#3 and wanted to see what she would say

before all this i usually tease her and made her laugh. about 2 weeks ago she asked me what i was, i played around the subject then told her chinese. she asked her to make her dimsum, i told her i only eat them, not make them. Then the next class session she asked again when she was gonna get them, i said "we'll see". then onto the next class, she asked again i didnt respond. Well today, i saw she didnt ask me that question, but i did make some witty comments and she appears to still have good interest. As she was blabberring on about how she loved chinese food and going out to eat them at restaurants iwth her sister.

here's the convo in the elevator:
me: hey whatsup, u still want your dim sum?
Up for some this saturday?
her: you're paying for it?
me: sure.
her: i have an internship interview this saturday.
then she was blaberring about something with washing the dishes and chopsticks or some ****.
( here i am thinking wtf, my only intention was to go out and eat, since i cant cook for ****)

1st floor! then we exit and we say bye. Since i have minimal interest in her, her answer doesnt bother me. I wouldnt blame her as next week is the last week of classes and finals/papers are due.

But i would like to know what happened here...
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Did you even notice that you said youd..
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PAY?!
 
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i dont remember...she spoke so softly and was mumbling, but im pretty sure thats what i said.

or maybe all the flirting was fun for her (and me too)

renegade, you may have made a good point, maybe that was why. altho i dont remember if i said that after she rejected my offer or before.
 
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When she said that you should pay for it. I would've called her cheap and tease her about it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Unless she is extremely shy this girl doesn't like you - leave her alone!!
 
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me: hey whatsup, u still want your dim sum?
Up for some this saturday?
her: you're paying for it?
me: sure.
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There's two things that may have happened here.

1) Red Flag. She immediately asks you if YOU'RE paying for it. She's not interested in you, she's interested in your money.

2) 5hit Test. She was interested in going for some dim sum until you failed the 5hit test. "You're paying for it" was a test to see if you're like all the other chumps trying to get to her with your wallet. Like a sucker, you gave in and failed the 5hit test.

I'd think that #2 is what happened since she was willing on Saturday, but after you showed her you're like any other guy, she backed out.
 
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Originally posted by Desdinova
There's two things that may have happened here.

1) Red Flag. She immediately asks you if YOU'RE paying for it. She's not interested in you, she's interested in your money.

2) 5hit Test. She was interested in going for some dim sum until you failed the 5hit test. "You're paying for it" was a test to see if you're like all the other chumps trying to get to her with your wallet. Like a sucker, you gave in and failed the 5hit test.

I'd think that #2 is what happened since she was willing on Saturday, but after you showed her you're like any other guy, she backed out.
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hmm yea that may have been why, well doesn't matter. only thing that matters is i learn from my mistakes ;)
 
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