"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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whoa...wth happened, i thought she was into me, she rejected my offer

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Anyway to put this brief, i finally asked out this hb7 today cause i
#1 figured she had interest
#2 had dragged this 2 weeks straight w/o asking out
#3 and wanted to see what she would say

before all this i usually tease her and made her laugh. about 2 weeks ago she asked me what i was, i played around the subject then told her chinese. she asked her to make her dimsum, i told her i only eat them, not make them. Then the next class session she asked again when she was gonna get them, i said "we'll see". then onto the next class, she asked again i didnt respond. Well today, i saw she didnt ask me that question, but i did make some witty comments and she appears to still have good interest. As she was blabberring on about how she loved chinese food and going out to eat them at restaurants iwth her sister.

here's the convo in the elevator:
me: hey whatsup, u still want your dim sum?
Up for some this saturday?
her: you're paying for it?
me: sure.
her: i have an internship interview this saturday.
then she was blaberring about something with washing the dishes and chopsticks or some ****.
( here i am thinking wtf, my only intention was to go out and eat, since i cant cook for ****)

1st floor! then we exit and we say bye. Since i have minimal interest in her, her answer doesnt bother me. I wouldnt blame her as next week is the last week of classes and finals/papers are due.

But i would like to know what happened here...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Did you even notice that you said youd..
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PAY?!
 
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i dont remember...she spoke so softly and was mumbling, but im pretty sure thats what i said.

or maybe all the flirting was fun for her (and me too)

renegade, you may have made a good point, maybe that was why. altho i dont remember if i said that after she rejected my offer or before.
 
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When she said that you should pay for it. I would've called her cheap and tease her about it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

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Unless she is extremely shy this girl doesn't like you - leave her alone!!
 
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me: hey whatsup, u still want your dim sum?
Up for some this saturday?
her: you're paying for it?
me: sure.
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There's two things that may have happened here.

1) Red Flag. She immediately asks you if YOU'RE paying for it. She's not interested in you, she's interested in your money.

2) 5hit Test. She was interested in going for some dim sum until you failed the 5hit test. "You're paying for it" was a test to see if you're like all the other chumps trying to get to her with your wallet. Like a sucker, you gave in and failed the 5hit test.

I'd think that #2 is what happened since she was willing on Saturday, but after you showed her you're like any other guy, she backed out.
 
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Originally posted by Desdinova
There's two things that may have happened here.

1) Red Flag. She immediately asks you if YOU'RE paying for it. She's not interested in you, she's interested in your money.

2) 5hit Test. She was interested in going for some dim sum until you failed the 5hit test. "You're paying for it" was a test to see if you're like all the other chumps trying to get to her with your wallet. Like a sucker, you gave in and failed the 5hit test.

I'd think that #2 is what happened since she was willing on Saturday, but after you showed her you're like any other guy, she backed out.
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hmm yea that may have been why, well doesn't matter. only thing that matters is i learn from my mistakes ;)
 
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