You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Looks like you're up there as well. I would imagine a grand majority of those who sign up stick around for a few mouths than drop off. I've obviously dropped off plenty of times or you'd see a much higher numbers under my name, but seriously, 21 years ago man!That’s actually a really good question.
I don’t know.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I've seen threads on here from at least 2001. This forum might date back to the 1990s.Forum been around awhileeee
Idk, SENIOR Don Juan seems appropriateI'm out here thinking of banging chicks that were born around the time I signed up on this site. ****ing hilarious. I should get a special title.
i joined in 2002..I do not remember my old handle. Wonder How long this place has been around?I'm sure more than a few from the early days have different handles now...
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Did it always have a forum though? I like the fact this forum is still active. I hate how everything now is a lot of Facebook groups and those suck ass. Speaking of the forum, I couldn't find my old posts from 20 years ago? Would be interesting to see how my perspective has changed.This domain sosuave.com was registered on 2000 accroding to whois database, so maybe 2000? I am honestly not sure. Maybe its Global Marketing thats been around since 98?
Edit: This on the bottom of the page on sosuave.com:
Copyright © 1998-2022 SoSuave.com.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Oh god I know. I wished I was active around the time I signed up. I didn't even start to try to meet women until much later. 10 years ago it was fineThe longest currently active member is probably the admin since he actively gets revenues from the adverts since the late 90s.
Btw what a ride this world had since the early 00s.
[Borknagar said:Did it always have a forum though? I like the fact this forum is still active. I hate how everything now is a lot of Facebook groups and those suck ass. Speaking of the forum, I couldn't find my old posts from 20 years ago? Would be interesting to see how my perspective has changed.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.