"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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The alternative would be a world where men are judged by looks just as rigorously as women are.
Think your genes are superior enough to pass muster? They're probably not ... just look how high the standard for women is.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
frivolousz21
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im a good loooking guy..but thats right...
because of the nature of the beast I can pull hotter girls...and if I was a women it woudlnt work the same way around!
Spiky
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The point is that with cool style, bodylanguage, a ****y tone of voice, you project a 'good looking' vibe.
Things like cool haircuts, sexual ornamentation (jewllery), nice shoes, a tan make anyone look good.
Put it this way; a fat ugly bytch in a bar will get some horny drunk bastard to hit on her eventually. You have plenty of decent looking guys going home alone because they "don't pass muster"
It always has been, and always will be easier for women to get sex.
Anyway, it still proves my point that men [usually] don't win or lose based on looks the way women do, but do so based on their game, something learned instead of inherited.
Scratch all that: you're talking about those women who play an active role in getting the man involved with her. This actually makes more of a difference than anything else - the mistress manipulator at work, playing on a man's desparation.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Totally right.
I hear this concept of "guys care more about looks than women" over and over again. That's not what I see around here.
In fact, I know tons of ass-ugly women who have satellite guys around them all the time to do WTF they would want, hoping they'll tap the ass. They're ugly and have many options! And the guys aren't even half as ugly as them.
Supplication DOES happen when the guy doesn't have no options, even if he is good-looking. He will supplicate even to a fat ugly girl, if the dry spell becomes a torture, hehe.
You have two options on dealing with it, and I think the best thing is a balance of the two:
1) be the shyt in the looks department, so all the girls want you.
2) have a thick skin and approach many many girls until you have a lot of prospects.
Game equals options. Very good looks equals options. It's all about the demand thing. Economics 101 you know
A girl who has written all over her something like EASY SEX will have some desperate guys gravitating towards her. Now she has options!
So, woman do not lose based only on looks. They can have game too.
EDIT: Gunwitch nailed it perfectly on his Gunwitch method. It's in a section called "Looks vs. Effort". The Gunwitch method is a post by Gunwitch, which is in the DJ bible.