"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Who do you actually respect here?

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I relate to Pooparu, mcpimpin, and Francisco.

Francisco is the bee's knees because even though he posts a lot, he never e-rages.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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My shout-outs go to (in no particular order):

WestCoaster
Vulpine
Desdinova
Titanium
SamePendo
Rollo Tomassi
Rollo
Bible Belt
Str8up

A couple of folks could contribute nicely, such as ( . )( . ) and Wyldfire, but are just too damn hardheaded.
 

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Tupac/ Biggie.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Brian20o2 said:
Im not on the list anywhere... Dangit! lol ;)
me either:cry: I got a little first page love and that's it.
 

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wow nobodys mentioned sexpdx and spirit fingers ( think this is senior fingers and mr fingers though)
 

speed dawg

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My bad, Shezz, you shoulda been on my list too....

Take notes, fellas, Shezz is one guy you'll probably never see crying over a
b!tch.....
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I gotta go with the people who work tirelessly towards self improvement, and help others do so aswell without flaming

A-Unit
Godsgiftowomen
H2O
Squirrels
Pook
Warboss Alex
Challenge Guy
Robert Jordan

and some of the current guys with good FR's

Shezz
Fash
Animal Crackers
Tomatoes
 

squirrels

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Mostly the guys who were here before me, before it became a territory for idle sophistry and keyboard-jockeying. The older guys have really earned my respect.

I'm not going to name names, but just like IRL, you can tell who REALLY gets it and who's full of sh!t. Some names keep coming up again and again in this thread...pay attention to them.

I wouldn't recommend anyone putting me on their list, but if something I said helped you out, I'm glad. I find my own advice is the hardest for me to take, for some bizarre reason.
 

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Francisco D'Anconia (especially since I picked up Atlas Shrugged and hardly put it down since) and squirrels.
 
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I tend to respect Espi, he sort of vibes with me like a 'player Uncle in the family helping his virgin nephew get laid'. Get practical tips and pointers that deal directly with the situation at hand.

Other people on here have been rather helpful, or have at least made an genuine effort to state their views, whether I have listened to them or not, and have generally offered support and perspective, for example:

skip2mylou - is recognized for the emphasis on improving looks by going to the gym.

Nine Breaker - is recognized for emphasis on 'inner game' - and a few other alises I cant remember off hand at this time.

Self-Mastery - said a useful tip on finding the 'female equivalent' of yourself and start a relationship with her before jumping into anything.

SamPendo - has an excellent gym thread somewhere.

Desinova - helpful advice to tackle contact-close phobia.

Flabbergasped - liked post analysis of my Jedi bootcamp, helpful thoughts.

popparu - recommending to look at Gunwitch.

Generally, most posters, even those not mentioned, have offered some helpful advice and I think anyone who has contributed practical and intelligent advice on my threads deserves respect, even if I dont totally apply or agree with everything.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Brian20o2 said:
Im not on the list anywhere... Dangit! lol ;)

join the club.

I personally don't care that I am not on the lists. This is the first time in months since I have been back.

hmmm, people I respect:

bible belt, shezz, neonbase(although not for any advice he has given here), penkitten, wyldefire and that titboy guy simply for the entertainment, wavejams007(just so I actually get mentioned), there are others, but I am not too good on remembering screennames.
 

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Man. All of you folks can just bust off some names. I personally, can't think of anything right off the top of my head, but being a part of these boards for just a few years (I've changed names due to my inability to remember passwords and emails) I've read a LOT of good stuff. Hopefully the quality posters remain around until another batch come in, otherwise this board will fall to the "What do I do? She looked at me. Does she like me?" threads.

Keep it up guys.
 

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I have come around recently after a long absence so there are a lot of people I am bound not to be familiar with, but here are the guys from the time I was most active that were most relevant to my experience...

DeepBlue
Jake Steed
xblitz44x
david_med
Powertrip (or Powertrip II, as I guess he calls himself now)
Master of the Universe
cyclonus
Prosemont
Cesare Cardinali
Gipper
Pancho
De La Soul
 

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I respect everyone who's freed themsleves from the Matrix (especially the rank noobs), but people I'd like to meet:

Paradox
Desdinova
Fransisco D' Anconia
Westcoaster
Pook
Anti-Dump
A-Unit
Vulpine
Pen Kitten
Wyldfire
Water Tiger
Metal Fortress
Latino Man
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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