FatHairyM4F
Don Juan
From what I get from this board, a "real man" is: aggressive, competitive, strong (at least mentally/emotionally), tough, independent, secure in himself/doesn't depend on anyone else's approval, likes challenges, is always trying to improve himself, has long-term goals, a bit of a rebel, isn't very emotional, has "been around the block a few times", blah blah blah.
Well if that is the criteria then I am not anything even resembling a "real man" and really don't see any problem with that. I dont see why I should have to be in order to find a woman who will accept me and love me just the way I am. Im a bit on the timid side, passive, not interested in "social" activities, pretty inexperienced about life in general/innocent (I have NO idea why this would be considered a bad thing; to me it just means I'm a good person compared to most guys my age), pretty lazy, very insecure, get my feelings hurt easily...
I DO need a woman to love me, make me feel important, attractive, special, lovable. I'm very affectionate and want to constantly cuddle, hold hands, tell her how beautiful she is, talk about each other's feelings, call each other pet names, talk baby talk, etc. Ideally my whole world would revolve around her, and hers around me.
This isn't cave man days anymore. There's no wild animals we have to kill for food, or no other cavemen we have to protect our women from. We're supposed to be civilized today. So there's no reason why men have to be all "manly" and "macho" anymore. All that should matter is not doing anything illegal and stuff like that.
And I read some of Pook's "Fifteen Lessons" post. And I'm very much like the guy Pook describes who refuses to change because he (rightly) shouldn't have to change for anyone. Then Pook shows these 2 guys, both started out when they were little as mama's boys, one grew out of it and one didn't. And as Pook describes it the one who grew out of it is facing away from his mom's womb, the other still facing toward it. Why is one guy right and one guy wrong? Again, we aren't in the stone age, we're SUPPOSED to be civilized. The rules are supposed to be different today. We're supposed to be in a time when men and women can be whoever they want to be with no social labels. There still are lots of social labels, I see that and there aren't SUPPOSED to be!
Is there anyplace I can move to, where women don't have all these outdated rules about how "real men" act, and find timid passive guys like me sexy?
Well if that is the criteria then I am not anything even resembling a "real man" and really don't see any problem with that. I dont see why I should have to be in order to find a woman who will accept me and love me just the way I am. Im a bit on the timid side, passive, not interested in "social" activities, pretty inexperienced about life in general/innocent (I have NO idea why this would be considered a bad thing; to me it just means I'm a good person compared to most guys my age), pretty lazy, very insecure, get my feelings hurt easily...
I DO need a woman to love me, make me feel important, attractive, special, lovable. I'm very affectionate and want to constantly cuddle, hold hands, tell her how beautiful she is, talk about each other's feelings, call each other pet names, talk baby talk, etc. Ideally my whole world would revolve around her, and hers around me.
This isn't cave man days anymore. There's no wild animals we have to kill for food, or no other cavemen we have to protect our women from. We're supposed to be civilized today. So there's no reason why men have to be all "manly" and "macho" anymore. All that should matter is not doing anything illegal and stuff like that.
And I read some of Pook's "Fifteen Lessons" post. And I'm very much like the guy Pook describes who refuses to change because he (rightly) shouldn't have to change for anyone. Then Pook shows these 2 guys, both started out when they were little as mama's boys, one grew out of it and one didn't. And as Pook describes it the one who grew out of it is facing away from his mom's womb, the other still facing toward it. Why is one guy right and one guy wrong? Again, we aren't in the stone age, we're SUPPOSED to be civilized. The rules are supposed to be different today. We're supposed to be in a time when men and women can be whoever they want to be with no social labels. There still are lots of social labels, I see that and there aren't SUPPOSED to be!
Is there anyplace I can move to, where women don't have all these outdated rules about how "real men" act, and find timid passive guys like me sexy?