You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
^This with a passive woman on me' left nut and an active woman on me' right nut.One of each.
Welcome backI like the ones who will do whatever you tell them to.
Otherwise it's not really something I have a preference on. I just like to fvck
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Very interesting info.Definitely active.
I recently was lucky enough to be banging two hot young girls at the same time, one was active the other passive.
I have taken the time to pain stakingly make notes for the benefit of all here and list the pros and cons to each:
ACTIVE CHICK
Pros
- mind blowing blowj0bs
- loved to dirty talk during sex which turn me on like a motherfvcker
- suggested new positions which was hot
- fvcked me almost as hard as I fvcked her
- watching her orgasm was a huge turn on
- happily licked my balls
- asked me what I wanted her to do to me
- liked to be whipped and choked
- spat on my d!ck, while she sucked on my man spear her spit would dribble down my c0ck mmm so hot
- much more willing to try sex in new interesting places, such as public parks, alley ways, elevators, stairwells, cars, you name it she would do it
- was sexually more adventurous and spontaneous, would suggest more things
- her poosy was always soaking wet
Cons
- wouldn't always let me cvm where I wanted to
- had to go down on her too
- was sometimes argumentative
- didn't always do what I told her to do
- her attitude/personality out of the bedroom was too controlling and manipulative, ended up having to leave the b*tch
- wouldn't let me fvck her in the ass
- wouldn't always dress up the way I wanted her to
- sex pretty much only happened when she felt like it
PASSIVE CHICK
Pros
- would let me cvm where ever and whenever I wanted
- did pretty much whatever I wanted
- let me fvck her in the ass, plus plenty of a$$ to mouth
- sex happened whenever I wanted
- she would dress up in sexy clothes, high heels, and her hair and make up all done up unlike active girl who pretty much just showed up
- her attitude and personality outside of the bedroom was very easygoing and sweet which made her an all round better girlfriend
- didn't expect me to go down on her
Cons
- she did whatever I wanted - EXCEPT lick my balls which was a huge turn off
- sex was amazing, but just not as great as with active girl
- her idea of exciting public sex took place in the back of a car or library (yawn)
- constantly had to instruct her on how to do things, ie how to give handjobs, blowj0bs, how much of my d*ck to stick down her throat, she would never spit enough on my c0ck satisfactorily, and this all just plain got frustrating
- I was always the one suggesting new positions, new places to have sex etc
- was tougher to make orgasm
Have you ever been with a mixture of the two? Like, my ex girlfriend learned how to suck **** very well, but could not deepthroat well at all. She spit all over it and as you said, that's hot, played with balls. Tried anal sex but she would literally shake (I guess from pleasure and the size of ****) and it was like it was too much pleasure for her, so we kinda stopped trying. We had sex in a public park and in a pub. Meaning, I guess there are girls who are mixtures between the two types, like hybridDefinitely active for the bedroom, but passive as an all round better gf.
I recently was lucky enough to be banging two hot young girls at the same time, one was active the other passive.
I have taken the time to pain stakingly make notes for the benefit of all here and list the pros and cons to each:
ACTIVE CHICK
Pros
- mind blowing blowj0bs
- loved to dirty talk during sex which turned me on like a motherfvcker
- suggested new positions which was hot
- fvcked me almost as hard as I fvcked her
- watching her orgasm was a huge turn on
- happily licked my balls
- asked me what I wanted her to do to me
- liked to be whipped and choked
- spat on my d!ck, while she sucked on my man spear her spit would dribble down my c0ck mmm so hot
- much more willing to try sex in new interesting places, such as public parks, alley ways, elevators, stairwells, cars, you name it she would do it
- was sexually more adventurous and spontaneous, would suggest more things
- her poosy was always soaking wet
Cons
- wouldn't always let me cvm where I wanted to (ie not on my face! like wtf?)
- had to go down on her too
- was sometimes argumentative
- didn't always do what I told her to do
- her attitude/personality out of the bedroom was too controlling and manipulative, ended up having to leave the b*tch
- wouldn't let me fvck her in the ass
- wouldn't always dress up the way I wanted her to
- sex pretty much only happened when she felt like it
PASSIVE CHICK
Pros
- would let me cvm where ever and whenever I wanted
- did pretty much whatever I wanted
- let me fvck her in the ass, plus plenty of a$$ to mouth
- sex happened whenever I wanted
- she would dress up in sexy clothes, high heels, and her hair and make up all done up unlike active girl who pretty much just showed up
- her attitude and personality outside of the bedroom was very easygoing and sweet which made her an all round better girlfriend
- didn't expect me to go down on her
Cons
- she did whatever I wanted - EXCEPT lick my balls which was a huge turn off
- sex was amazing, but just not as great as with active girl
- her idea of exciting public sex took place in the back of a car or library (yawn)
- constantly had to instruct her on how to do things, ie how to give handjobs, blowj0bs, how much of my d*ck to stick down her throat, she would never spit enough on my c0ck satisfactorily, and this all just plain got frustrating
- after three years of fvcking her she still can't deepthroat to save her life
- I was always the one suggesting new positions, new places to have sex etc
- was tougher to make orgasm
Yes, but I think with passive girls you run another risk: usually, such a submissive girl is the type of calm girl, quiet, usually a better girlfriend as you also rightfully stated and I say this from personal experience that such quiet women always have some kind underlying problem that they won't tell you for 3 or 4 years and then they will explode with it LOL. The risk is that during these 3-4 years, you will have developed genuine feelings for the person and then boom. I am not saying it happens all the time, but have seen quite a few cases.Oh ya there's definitely girls who fall in the middle.. but the most fun ones fall on either extreme end of the spectrum
My case study is interesting because both girls were young and hot, sexy brunettes with pretty faces, awesome figures, and both did a bit of modelling on the side.. but in terms of personality they couldn't be more different. One was passive to the point where I could cheat on her and she would still stay with me. The other one was extremely active, but it was so over the top that she was extremely bossy and way too controlling and manipulative for a guy like me to put up with for more than a couple of months.
Funny thing is, active girl - being the active controlling beesh that she is - ended up going thru my fvcking iphone and found a message I sent to passive girl wishing her a "good night babe." Apparently my guantanamo level security had failed to delete this incriminating text before active girl came over. Well anyway, active girl got suspicious and called passive girl and they had a big long talk .. in which all was revealed. How I would fvck one in the morning and then the other that same evening. How they would share the same sheets in my bed. They even described to each other the colour of my pillows.
I lost active girl (obviously, as active girls don't put with up with your sh*t) but luckily passive girl stuck by my side. Which is the best feature about passive girls: they will generally put up with all your bullshyte and stick by you no matter what. But fvcking active girls.. watch out for them or they will try to fvck everything up for you.
It's like there's dangers everywhere LOL. Can't a guy get some ****in' peace for a long timeLMAO very true!
I've been with mine for going on three years now so I'm still waiting for the big explosion to happen, I'm sure it'll come at any moment now haha
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.