I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Yeap, you can learn Java without any background in C or C++, that's absolutely fine.Xx1 said:Can I learn Java without having a background in C or C++? I don't want to learn two languages at once; it will confuse me and I will have information mixed up between the two.
I see that Java is demanded in a lot of fields of the work field.
I'm taking a break from college (possibly around 1 or 2 years) and I'm working bull sh!t job just to get by and save up, but I want to teach myself something that will be useful for my future.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Just out of curiosity backbreaker... What exactly do you work as? (besides being a professional handicapper ;-)backbreaker said:if you are planning for the future Objective-C. that's what all iphone applications are programmed in. not everyone can do them etiher. goldmine right now. we are having to tu rn away iphone app requests beucase we are getting so many.
as far as just pure practacility, php is still king.
I don't know 'exactly' what I'm looking for but here are some things:handle said:Java or C++ are good all-arounders. If you let us know what you're looking to do specifically we can help more -- i.e. a lot of scientific modeling has roots in C/C++.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I own a web development company. I do alot of things actually, I don't work as or for anyone. I own a little real estate, own a little stock, have a couple of business ventures I am working on, I do spend most of my time at the track or at least alot of it, but a good chunk of my time is spent with the web development firm i own and I am a programmer / tech by trade. The avg day I get up at 3:15 in the morning, work out for an hour and a half, then "work" from 5:30 until about 11ish, give or take what needs to be done or who I need to talk to, grab a bite to eat if it's monday -wed run errands or do something with my fiancee or if I am really bored watch HRTV, wed-sun go to the track from 12:00 until 5pm, eat or keep working if need be until about 10. i stay busy.OTB said:Just out of curiosity backbreaker... What exactly do you work as? (besides being a professional handicapper ;-)
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Nah he didn't really mean that as such. Basically SQL languages - i.e. Structured Query Language - is the language a database (i.e. MySQL, MS SQL server, Oracle) understands. So, for example, every time you want to retrieve information out of a database, or put data in, or delete data, create new tables, etc, you send commands to the database server in the form of SQL commands.Xx1 said:backbreaker said "you can't learn php without leanring SQL"
So is it impossible to just dive into PHP and use PHP practically or is it just preferred to learn SQL before PHP?
I'm leaning towards PHP now more than Java (possibly change my mind after getting an answer to the question above, lol). I feel that PHP is more practical in the fields of website development (my interest - partially)... I was thinking about digging deep into Perl, but for many reasons I feel that it's dying and also not significantly needed.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.