She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Yeap, you can learn Java without any background in C or C++, that's absolutely fine.Xx1 said:Can I learn Java without having a background in C or C++? I don't want to learn two languages at once; it will confuse me and I will have information mixed up between the two.
I see that Java is demanded in a lot of fields of the work field.
I'm taking a break from college (possibly around 1 or 2 years) and I'm working bull sh!t job just to get by and save up, but I want to teach myself something that will be useful for my future.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Just out of curiosity backbreaker... What exactly do you work as? (besides being a professional handicapper ;-)backbreaker said:if you are planning for the future Objective-C. that's what all iphone applications are programmed in. not everyone can do them etiher. goldmine right now. we are having to tu rn away iphone app requests beucase we are getting so many.
as far as just pure practacility, php is still king.
I don't know 'exactly' what I'm looking for but here are some things:handle said:Java or C++ are good all-arounders. If you let us know what you're looking to do specifically we can help more -- i.e. a lot of scientific modeling has roots in C/C++.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I own a web development company. I do alot of things actually, I don't work as or for anyone. I own a little real estate, own a little stock, have a couple of business ventures I am working on, I do spend most of my time at the track or at least alot of it, but a good chunk of my time is spent with the web development firm i own and I am a programmer / tech by trade. The avg day I get up at 3:15 in the morning, work out for an hour and a half, then "work" from 5:30 until about 11ish, give or take what needs to be done or who I need to talk to, grab a bite to eat if it's monday -wed run errands or do something with my fiancee or if I am really bored watch HRTV, wed-sun go to the track from 12:00 until 5pm, eat or keep working if need be until about 10. i stay busy.OTB said:Just out of curiosity backbreaker... What exactly do you work as? (besides being a professional handicapper ;-)
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Nah he didn't really mean that as such. Basically SQL languages - i.e. Structured Query Language - is the language a database (i.e. MySQL, MS SQL server, Oracle) understands. So, for example, every time you want to retrieve information out of a database, or put data in, or delete data, create new tables, etc, you send commands to the database server in the form of SQL commands.Xx1 said:backbreaker said "you can't learn php without leanring SQL"
So is it impossible to just dive into PHP and use PHP practically or is it just preferred to learn SQL before PHP?
I'm leaning towards PHP now more than Java (possibly change my mind after getting an answer to the question above, lol). I feel that PHP is more practical in the fields of website development (my interest - partially)... I was thinking about digging deep into Perl, but for many reasons I feel that it's dying and also not significantly needed.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.