You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Yeap, you can learn Java without any background in C or C++, that's absolutely fine.Xx1 said:Can I learn Java without having a background in C or C++? I don't want to learn two languages at once; it will confuse me and I will have information mixed up between the two.
I see that Java is demanded in a lot of fields of the work field.
I'm taking a break from college (possibly around 1 or 2 years) and I'm working bull sh!t job just to get by and save up, but I want to teach myself something that will be useful for my future.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Just out of curiosity backbreaker... What exactly do you work as? (besides being a professional handicapper ;-)backbreaker said:if you are planning for the future Objective-C. that's what all iphone applications are programmed in. not everyone can do them etiher. goldmine right now. we are having to tu rn away iphone app requests beucase we are getting so many.
as far as just pure practacility, php is still king.
I don't know 'exactly' what I'm looking for but here are some things:handle said:Java or C++ are good all-arounders. If you let us know what you're looking to do specifically we can help more -- i.e. a lot of scientific modeling has roots in C/C++.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I own a web development company. I do alot of things actually, I don't work as or for anyone. I own a little real estate, own a little stock, have a couple of business ventures I am working on, I do spend most of my time at the track or at least alot of it, but a good chunk of my time is spent with the web development firm i own and I am a programmer / tech by trade. The avg day I get up at 3:15 in the morning, work out for an hour and a half, then "work" from 5:30 until about 11ish, give or take what needs to be done or who I need to talk to, grab a bite to eat if it's monday -wed run errands or do something with my fiancee or if I am really bored watch HRTV, wed-sun go to the track from 12:00 until 5pm, eat or keep working if need be until about 10. i stay busy.OTB said:Just out of curiosity backbreaker... What exactly do you work as? (besides being a professional handicapper ;-)
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Nah he didn't really mean that as such. Basically SQL languages - i.e. Structured Query Language - is the language a database (i.e. MySQL, MS SQL server, Oracle) understands. So, for example, every time you want to retrieve information out of a database, or put data in, or delete data, create new tables, etc, you send commands to the database server in the form of SQL commands.Xx1 said:backbreaker said "you can't learn php without leanring SQL"
So is it impossible to just dive into PHP and use PHP practically or is it just preferred to learn SQL before PHP?
I'm leaning towards PHP now more than Java (possibly change my mind after getting an answer to the question above, lol). I feel that PHP is more practical in the fields of website development (my interest - partially)... I was thinking about digging deep into Perl, but for many reasons I feel that it's dying and also not significantly needed.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.