"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Which one to do? self improvement or the game, and approach?

Canadien

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Ok guys, the university started last week, and so far, I've taken quiet a lot of steps to improve myself, to become more comfortable around girls. These are the things I have started for upcoming semester.

1) Joined salsa, swing dance class at Concordia University

2) Joined hip hop, social dance and swimming lessons at McGill university

3) I dress to impress, as I took out my geeky prescription glasses, and old clothing line and replaced it with the unique styles and colors of leather jackets, suits, and stylish shirts and pants, with party shoes and also took away the old backpack, and replaced it by over shoulder laptop bag. I also wear sunglasses, time to time...

4) Got a laptop to spend more time at 7th floor cafeteria area, and wait for potential approach.

5) Signed up for many university workshops, where I'll get to refine on many of my social, career and academic skills, and possibly approach in that group.

6) Became pro-active and very talkative in class and university, doing so I've been able to assemble very strong project teams, and I'm starting to build good friendships with new people, somehow I am able to attract people just by my sheer energetic and talkative nature.

7) I approach whenever possible in bus, and metro.

8) Getting my drivers license..


Problem I have is, I just started this path 9 months months ago, and I don't know what my short term goals should be, any example of how this will reveal itself would be very helpful.

Is it ok, if I work on improving my social skills, body language, and more importantly becoming comfortable in the company of a woman or should I start going for digit right away?

is it better to pace myself slowly for eventual self growth?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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beastmaster79

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keep rolling with the socialization and approaches. its kinda like a muscle that you have to work out. if you keep at it will get stronger and stronger but if you neglect it it will weaken.

same with the posture and body language stuff. no one realizes how much this stuff matters.

if you can tell a chick is enjoying your company then you should go for a number close. if you want to not give a **** about rejection then you can ask regardless.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Canadien said:
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Problem I have is, I just started this path 9 months months ago, and I don't know what my short term goals should be, any example of how this will reveal itself would be very helpful...
You're saying that you've done all of this without having any idea why??? :confused:

Take a look at the DJB Bootcamp.
 
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