"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Which one to do? self improvement or the game, and approach?

Canadien

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Ok guys, the university started last week, and so far, I've taken quiet a lot of steps to improve myself, to become more comfortable around girls. These are the things I have started for upcoming semester.

1) Joined salsa, swing dance class at Concordia University

2) Joined hip hop, social dance and swimming lessons at McGill university

3) I dress to impress, as I took out my geeky prescription glasses, and old clothing line and replaced it with the unique styles and colors of leather jackets, suits, and stylish shirts and pants, with party shoes and also took away the old backpack, and replaced it by over shoulder laptop bag. I also wear sunglasses, time to time...

4) Got a laptop to spend more time at 7th floor cafeteria area, and wait for potential approach.

5) Signed up for many university workshops, where I'll get to refine on many of my social, career and academic skills, and possibly approach in that group.

6) Became pro-active and very talkative in class and university, doing so I've been able to assemble very strong project teams, and I'm starting to build good friendships with new people, somehow I am able to attract people just by my sheer energetic and talkative nature.

7) I approach whenever possible in bus, and metro.

8) Getting my drivers license..


Problem I have is, I just started this path 9 months months ago, and I don't know what my short term goals should be, any example of how this will reveal itself would be very helpful.

Is it ok, if I work on improving my social skills, body language, and more importantly becoming comfortable in the company of a woman or should I start going for digit right away?

is it better to pace myself slowly for eventual self growth?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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beastmaster79

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keep rolling with the socialization and approaches. its kinda like a muscle that you have to work out. if you keep at it will get stronger and stronger but if you neglect it it will weaken.

same with the posture and body language stuff. no one realizes how much this stuff matters.

if you can tell a chick is enjoying your company then you should go for a number close. if you want to not give a **** about rejection then you can ask regardless.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Canadien said:
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Problem I have is, I just started this path 9 months months ago, and I don't know what my short term goals should be, any example of how this will reveal itself would be very helpful...
You're saying that you've done all of this without having any idea why??? :confused:

Take a look at the DJB Bootcamp.
 
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