"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Which is harder, when they still have feelings for you or when they've lost all?

Fela Kuti

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Hi, guys. Just a short question here. Which situation is easier for you to get over a breakup: when they still has some feelings left but for some reason you can't be together, or when they've lost all of their feelings for you and leave you coldly?
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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No feelings, and leave coldly. Well thats me.
 

Fela Kuti

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Sorry the question in the title is different from the question in the post. So I don't know to which question you guys answered.

for me it's harder when they still have feelings. because it keeps giving me hope, and that slows down my recovery. but when they left us coldly, it hurts at first, but later I can just say "well, funk her. it's her lost."
 

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Most of the time the girl pretends there's feelings left but for some "reason" it won't work out. Different smell, same shiet.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Fela Kuti said:
Sorry the question in the title is different from the question in the post. So I don't know to which question you guys answered.

for me it's harder when they still have feelings. because it keeps giving me hope, and that slows down my recovery. but when they left us coldly, it hurts at first, but later I can just say "well, funk her. it's her lost."
No. No feelings is much much harder because it can shatter every ounce of confidence you might have had in yourself. It also makes you question yourself as to why you'd be involved with someone so heartless in the first place.
 
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